Daily update for my Boys 8 Jan 2014


Hello my little O’s

How are you both doing today ? I hope fantastic……

Well Champs I had a busy day running in and out of meetings and even had time to get my sat nav updated with the right maps so hopefully I will not be driving around blind and on my gut to find places… Lol don’t giggle you two as I told you before all the streets have new names here so it’s been a nightmare to say the least ….

Looks like we are in for a big storm shortly , the sky is grey and the clouds are hanging low and heavy… Think we are in for a cloud burst African style…..

Sorry I said I would do a video for you today but it is so dark and the video quality looks really poor if I try and do it indoors with a light on, the joys of working on an iPad I guess…. So I will try tomorrow again when I get back home…

I wonder what you two muppets have been doing today , this weather reminded me when you came to meet me after work in Uckfield and we went to play in the park near my office before going for tee at McDonalds…fun times hey little men… Maybe one day again who knows…

Ouma and Oupa asked that I say hello from them also and to tell you they miss and love you lots….

I still need to try and get them to make a video for you also …maybe this weekend…

Tried to ring the hospital today Oliver but they kept me on hold for ages , guess they don’t know what to say … I will send them a letter later this week again if they don’t come back to me as I would still like to know that you are well and safe and what they intend to do…. Guess this will end up in yet another court battle to enquire about your well being …. Just know you and Oscar are in my heart and thoughts each day all the time ……..

I need to put some reports together for work tonight so that will keep me busy I guess…

Boys as each and every night that has gone past and that is still to come in the future I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , remember your raincoats as I think we might need them tonight….can’t wait to see you both and give you both a huge dream cuddle….

Night , night little muppets , dreams of happy times and the future….

Miss and love you both around the world and back a trillion times , no more….

Love you my little men…

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 7 Jan 2014


Hello Champs!

Hope you two are oki doki today …..

The picture today I think is very true , I know it says Nanna instead of Grandad like in our story but I feel the message is the same at the end of the day…

It was a really nice day here again you two muppets would have had so much fun playing outside in the garden or on the drive with your big boy cars ….. I guess by now you both are foot pushing the cars yourselves not like last year in Horsham when you Oliver wanted to sit in the car and Oscar you kept climbing on the back so I could push you both up and down the drive …makes me smile just thinking about it … Was great fun …but again I assume you two will have no memory of those days anymore ….. Breaks my heart to be honest….

I don’t know what you two have been getting up to today but I really hope it was fun , safe and loads of happy times…..

I have had a day just full of email back and forth trying to set up a serious of meetings , it’s funny how once you think you have a clear and logical plan that should work for all parties someone always has to put a spanner in the works ….lol guess we will get there in the end ….

I am going to the City tomorrow for meetings so that should be great fun with all the traffic again, I think I was use to the days here when the traffic was manageable but that sure is not the case anymore ….it also does not help that I still don’t have my sat nav’s new maps and have to use Oupa’s that I think is 7 years old , the issue is they have changed all the street names here the last couple of years so I am a little snookered to be honest ….least I am getting lots of sight seeing and ending up in places I never knew existed …lol

Ouma had a look today in all the Court papers for me Oliver but all it says is you are having your operation in January so I have no clue little man , but just know as I said last night I am thinking of you each day and sending you huge cyber cuddles and hope it all goes well and that you will be ok , I will try and phone the hospital tomorrow but I guess as before they will refuse to speak to me , it’s 4 months now and their legal department still did not respond … So it seems they also support the parental alienation same as the Court and Cafcass….what to do , as they say ….

Sorry pals I think I am rambling , lol , must admit I am tired today …been a long one …

O I will try and do a video update tomorrow night again when I get back home ……

Well little men I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , keep me a spot as it might be busy tonight you never know …lol, can’t wait for my dream cuddles and smiles….

Night , night monkeys ….. Happy dreams of better days …….

I miss and love you both A380’s full and more ……..

Love you boys …

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 6 Jan 2014


Hello little men !

Hope you two are doing well….

I have just seen the picture above on Facebook and thought , how true … Makes me sad knowing that is a fact and that I am missing this whole part of your lives…….but what to do as they say ….

I have been on the phone so much today feels like my ear is going to fall off! Feels like I am a telephone marketer , lol ….. But all and all very productive calls all of them.

I was well surprised how quick I was able to sort the stuff at the government this morning , I think getting there and parking was more stressful but least it’s done now..

Been planning all the travels for Jan , I know that sounds easy but trying to book hotels , cars and flights for people coming from different places is not so much fun…. Thank goodness for a switched on travel agent…. I hope to get it all confirmed tomorrow… Then I guess it’s all go for the new project….

Did you two have a nice day at school ? I hope so , must have been fun I am sure..

Oliver I think you have your operation next week but I am not sure of the date , just want to say I will be thinking of you all the time and hope that you will be safe and that it all goes well…. Oscar you need to play nice when Olibear comes back from hospital as I am sure he will be sore so you will have to give his some space to recover , I am not sure when you are going back for your ears but I hope they are doing fine now also…. I am so sorry that I am not there to hold your hands and give you a cuddle ……..breaks my heart……

Been nice and cool here today which was good , I am not coping well with the heat at the moment not sure why , maybe old age , lol don’t giggle you two it happens to all of us ! ……

Well boys I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land ….can’t wait to see you both and know that you are ok ….O and don’t forget my double cuddles please champs …

I miss and love you both so much , this emptiness in my heart just gets bigger each day ……

Night , night pals , happy back to school dreams …..

Love you both a billion trillion times ….

Love you ,

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 5 Jan 2014


Hello Little O’s ,

How are my little Champs doing today ? I hope very , very well…

The picture today is care Oupa and Ouma .. It looks like you two I thought , Oupa said he can’t wait to go ride with you both on his bike …. Or yours for that matter…..

I think you are almost at the age now that you will start giving the trike ago by yourselves not just sit and try and move the steering wheel like you use to do in Horsham when we walked up to go feed those 2 goats and the ducks on the fishing farm … Great memories but I guess you both have now long forgotten about those days …….

O I am doing not so well to get my wifi thing sorted , went today and now Vodacom is shut today so I assume they are still offline … Not good but what to do as they say ….lol

Was my last morning today of only getting up after 8 am , realised today that it has now been more than 10 days since I wore shoes or a watch , been flops , short ant T shirts all they way , guess that’s what holidays are all about…..

It’s once again a great Summers day here not to hot but bright clear blue sky’s ….makes the world seem a better place days like these …… Really hope you two get to experience it one day …… I guess we can dream , hey boys ……

I take it you two are having a fun filled lazy day at home today … Hope you are having a blast ! ….

I see you two are also now part of the under 3 iPad / tablet generation , want to get you both iPad mini’s when I maybe get to see you in Feb but looks like you are sorted with that already so I guess I will have to come up with a new plan ….lol

I have a busy day tomorrow lots of running around in town with Government departments , not as much fun as it sounds , lol that I can promise you boys …. But it has to be done, at least all the bank stuff in now sorted so progress has been made , even over the holidays ….

I hope you two will have a very nice , fun and busy day at school tomorrow , sure it will be nice to see all your little friends and teachers again … Lots of happy learning pals ….

Boys from tomorrow I will be writing later in the evening so hope to catch you both before bedtime , but let’s see how the day goes …

As each night boys I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , so looking forward to my double O dream cuddles ….

Miss and love you both more then you will ever understand …..

Night , night muppets happy back to school dreams …..

Love you both more than ThiiiiiiiSssssss much ….

Love you boys …

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 4 Jan 2014


Hello Little Muppets !

I hope you two monkeys are doing great and that the weather is a little better today !

It’s again not as hot here as what they said , that’s a good thing but it might still be coming….

Oupa has been in the garage today the whole day working on the lift for his bike-camper trailer thing , it’s looks pretty good now , least he does not need electricity to work it so all good …

Ouma has just been messing around in the house today not much news I am afraid.

I have been to go try and recharge my Vodacom wifi thing but the network has been down for two days so not much luck with that , I assume I will have to go to the mall to try tomorrow again..

Ouma decided we are going to braai tonight rather then go for a meal so I am looking forward to that , I must say I think I have had more red meat in the past 3 weeks as what I have had in 5 years before , lol , welcome to Africa as they say ….

The TV here has gone mad with back to school adds , as next week is the start of the new school year , we don’t start in September like you do in the UK as we have Summer Holidays in December , I think it better to start a school year with the calendar year , makes more sense …

Boys I hope you are having a fun and creative day with lots of smiles and happy times … I assume you are back in school on Monday also again , so you need to make the most of your last little bit of wild fun time …but I guess for you now school is just as much part of your wild fun time as any other normal day ……

Tomorrow is my last day of relaxing , I must say I am looking forward to getting back to work and some form of normality after the turmoil of the last 11 months …. Keeps me going and focused ….

I assume the last bit of sensitive information that I have provided to the Court yesterday they have decided to not share with all the parties due to the risk it poses to some of the people involved …I am sure I will get the back lash at some point but I know it was the right thing to do to protect you both from unsavoury people who form part of your lives at the moment.

Champs I miss you both so much today , was looking at the couple of pictures I have from you over the past month or so , can’t believe how much you have grown , can still hear your voices and the chats that day at the Cafcass office , shouting Dad , when you both saw me in the hall , brings a tear to my eye to be honest just thinking back now ….memories I guess that is what us 3 have , at least they can never take that away from us , hey boys !

Pals I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , so keen to see you both and give you each the biggest bear cuddle in the world ever……

Night , night little men , happy dreams of us 3 having some fun one day …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you a billion times more …

Love you my little O’s….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 3 Jan 2014



Hello Little O’s

How are my muppets doing today ? I hope fantastic ! ….

Boys I see there is a huge amount of bad weather warnings out all over the UK again today , so I really hope you both are safe , warm and looked after……. All I can do is hope ……

It’s a really nice day here again , not as hot as what they said yesterday but really nice , Ouma and I have been shopping , looks like most people are still on Holiday today as the shops are mega busy … I guess it’s all back to normal next week ! I saw some really cool school bags today but was not sure if I should get them for you as I don’t know what you are allowed at your school…or even where your school is ….

O before I forget I was standing in line to pay at one of the clothing shops and I saw twin boys they must have been about 11 I guess , one also blond and one dark and the one had a shirt he wanted to buy I guess for a school dance or something so his brother came back and he had the exact same shirt , I thought the blond boy was going to go mad , they spoke Afrikaans but He said to his brother ‘ listen we are twins I know that and you are my best friend but that does not mean we have to look like freaks ! Mum said we should buy what we each like , so stop copying me please! ‘

I had to smile as I guess that will be you two in a couple of years … The dark haired boy came back a couple of minutes later with the same shirt again just a different colour and his brother then seemed ok with the idea….boys I spend each thinking about how your little personalities are developing and how badly you both will be affected by the people who are around you each day !but as I have said before no matter what just always make sure you look out for each other no matter what your ‘family’ tries to do to you …..stand your ground for what is right …..

The weekend is here again believe it or not , I don’t have any major plans , I think Ouma and Oupa wants to go for dinner , that’s about it …need to catch up on some work stuff also and get the Court papers file sorted ,I am using Ouma’s new Hoover box to store it all in for you can’t believe it’s more than 8000 pages already and we still have a long way to go boys … So as and when you are ready you will have to take a week to sit down and read this all…if you want…

Boys not sure what your big plans are for the weekend but I hope it is safe , warm and fun , I suspect there might be a little bit of tension around you this weekend but you know what people need to know the truth ! People can only hide their real personalities and life style for so long until they get exposed for what they really are … You two will understand this one day ! I think the lesson here is be yourself always , if people don’t like it tuff , but never try and be a two face as it always , always bites you in the end ……

I asked your ‘spokesperson’ if I can see you both on 27 Feb the day before we go back to Court and 20 May on your birthday as I was not allowed to see you for Christmas or New Year , I am sure they will ignore the request again as they did for Christmas but I guess if you give a monkey enough rope he will hang himself ……

Well little boys I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , can’t wait to give you both a huge cuddle and tell you how much I miss and love you both….

Night , night Champs , sweet happy weekend dreams ….

Miss and love you both big oil tankers full and miss you more …

Love you pals …

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 2 Jan 2014



Hello Boys …

Happy 2nd Jan 2014 .. Lol , hope you two are doing really well…

I had a lovely day , we had a surprise visit from some family friends the Koekemoers , with their 2 little men , or I guess not so little now , the last time I saw them was a couple of months before you were born when I was home the last time .. The boys are lovely , makes me smile when they call me Oom ( uncle ) such a South African thing but I guess we have all been brought up always with that respect for people that are older than you , makes me sad knowing that you two might never have that in your life growing up in the UK ,

Been a fantastic day here weather wise also but looks like the next couple of days are going to be extremely hot ! Not going to be fun ….

O i had a email from one of my old friends from Dubai , they stay in Namibia now , they have a little boy that is a little younger than you both , I am going to try and go see them end of Jan or Middle Feb if my schedule allows as I have not seen them in about 4 years also now … Should be a fun trip ….

I started work on my Jan travel schedule looks like it is going to be a busy month but productive and I guess it keeps my mind of this mess us 3 are living each day ….

I guess you two must be doing your back to school shopping this week now as I assume you are going back to school next week , you two must be well excited to see your little friends again and get back to some fun learning activities …..

My friend Renette is getting married tomorrow , or I guess rather having her wedding party , I have not been able to make it to Cape Town to see them , I am a bit disappointed about it , but was just not able to get it arranged , you two might not remember her but I have some lovely pictures of her with you two when you were a couple of months old .. Her sister has twin boys also so I know she has a soft spot for you two , regardless of being not so happy with me for not making the wedding party…..

I am not sure what you two have got going on for the weekend but I hope it will be packed with loads of fun , smiles and happy time … And that it is not toooooo colddddddd… Lol

Champs I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , keep me a nice spot … Can’t wait to see you both and hold you for a minute ……

Love you both to the moon and back a billion x 90000000000000 times and miss you more …

Night , night my little Super Stars …. Happy warm cosy dreams …..

Love you lots pals ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 1 Jan 2014






Hello my little O’s

Hope you two have had a great start to 2014 …..

Well as you can see I have had a busy day on the blog , learned loads… Had some very interesting emails about a Channel 4 documentary being done re Family Law in the UK and child contact , looks like this will be a great way for us to promote our fight for a normal relationship…..

I am so surprised about all the random support that is coming in for this battle , your blog had 2002 visitors today an all time high for the 4 weeks since I started doing it , it just shows me how many people care about you and love you and how many people ,mums and dads are going down the same road and have the same issues ….. Least we are not alone , hey boys ….

You will see the video of the young lady that is now living with her Dad for 2 years , I must say it brought a tear to my eye , yes I know I am a softy … Lol ,maybe one day boys … Who knows….

Well since I got up this morning I have been dealing with all the posts , emails and YouTube links I have been sent … Looks like this is now becoming a full time job for me , but you know what if our fight helps one other child to have a normal stable relationship with his or hers mum or dad then it’s all been worth the effort …. We as mums and dads and children who are living these battles are the only people that will be able to bring the change by speaking up and to continue the fight no matter what … Always remember that ….

So I assume you to monkeys have had a lazy day also playing at home or maybe you went to the Zoo again , whatever you did I hope it was mega fun and safe ……

O before forget in added a couple of pictures I have been sent which I thought was very appropriate to out situation … Hope you both also think the baby ones are a little funny … I did , lol

I guess you would have received the wildlife DVDs by now , I really hope you both like them….

Well little champs as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land … Can’t wait to give you both a huge jungle bear cuddle and wish you a happy new year again and tell you both how much I miss and love you … Always in my thoughts each minute of each day ….

Night , night little Lion King fans , sweet happy jungle dreams ….

Love you both so , so much ….. Miss you champs ….

Dad xx