How do we measure the loss to a child when a parent is removed through family separation by one hostile parent acting against the other.
Or the loss that happens when the court officer says ‘no contact.’
As a society we have been trained to measure it in ‘the best interests of the child.’ A phrase which alternately means prevention of conflict is best for the child and a child does not really need two parents to do ok.
In some cases that may well be the case. Where a parent (mother or father) has harmed or could harm a child and where there is a clear benefit to the child to remove them from conflict which is severe and unending (and in that case the removal should be from the parent causing the conflict, not the targeted parent, the one who is usually removed).
We do not measure loss…
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