I Went No Contact – Now What?

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

Begin to be Now

No Contact.

Words that stir dread and anxiety…

No Contact is serious business.  It’s the final step in detaching from an abusive partner and toxic relationship.  On average, targets of Narcissistic abuse attempt No Contact seven times before finally implementing it in its true form.  Pulling it off successfully takes determination, self-discipline, and the doggedness to see the bigger picture.

As brutal as going No Contact is, what’s even more difficult is the period after applying it.  There are withdrawal symptoms, heartbreak, horrible self-doubt, and the urge to reach out.  After stretches of liquor consumption, binge-eating, and making a fool of oneself at the local club (or worse, contacting the Ex), it’s time to remember what going No Contact is all about – getting your power back and living a life of liberation and joyfulness.

No Contact is not easy to stick to; it challenges your endurance and is one…

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First encounters with an alienated child

Karen Woodall

Many professionals who have not ever encountered a child who is alienated find it difficult to know how to understand or respond to the phenomenon.  In this current climate of continuous elevation of a child’s voice in the process of family separation, professionals may well be meeting children who have, for quite some time before their encounter, been given all of the decision making power over their relationship with their other parent.  This process, of placing a child in charge of relationships, is one which is upheld by the increasing reliance in the UK on tools such as Wishes and Feelings reports.  When these tools are used indiscriminately and without any kind of analysis, professionals working with the alienated child are simply colluding with the alienation and entrenching an already serious problem of role corruption.

A child in a separated family should not be in control of the relationships that…

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Three parent advocates of parental equality of the association “The roots of the child” climbed the roof of the ECHR and advocate of “joint custody by default” .

New Fathers 4 Justice - Superhero Dads

Strasbourg: They climb the European Court of Human Rights for their children

New F4J_racines-entant-toit-cedh Dads Association The roots of the child on the roof of the ECHR

They do it again. This past May, they had already occupied the platform of the cathedral   and hung tarps with messages for “joint custody by default.” This morning around 6:30, the three dads that once occupied the roof of the back building of the European Court of Human Rights (ECHR).

“You never let go, never, never”

“It was not enough and it will start as we have not heard, as our situation and that of our children do not change we will never let go, never, never,” warns Corinne Jaeger, one of the moms came in support.

The roots of the child on the roof of the ECHR. Supports mothers remained on the ground – G. Varela / 20 Minutes

 Accompanied by police…

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LMR Saturday Survivor – Inspirational Stories from the Front Line

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

The Day I Remembered Me

~Submitted by Kim Saeed~

February 11, 2011.  After nearly eight years of marriage to a Narcissist, I remembered me…and left the nightmare of Narcissistic abuse.

Little did I realize I’d been drawn to him partly because of my innate desire to help and heal others.  You see, I am an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), an Empath, and INFJ on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).  I was also an unaware co-dependent, and it took a relationship with a cluster-B disordered personality to bring all those tendencies to the surface.

Like me, individuals who share these traits feel such depth of emotion and love towards other people that we believe we can heal them. Because of our tireless efforts to help others believe in themselves, we are often successful in aiding them in overcoming issues of low self-esteem and disempowerment.  Only, with a Narcissist, it’s never enough.  They are empty inside…

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