When You Release All Fear of Your Narcissistic Spouse

Thanks as always Kim for a great and informative post 🙂 , hope you are having a nice weekend …take care Phill

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**This article was written for victims of Narcissistic abuse.  If you are experiencing Domestic Violence, please contact thehotline.org.

Narcissists enjoy instilling fear in their victims because it makes them feel omnipotent to do so.  An added bonus is that it keeps their victims complaint.  In their mind, a person with no self-esteem and a great sense of fear is the perfect subservient pawn.

For the most part, fear is nothing more than a conditioned reaction to a perceived danger.  Most things we fear, we don’t have a direct answer for.  It happens automatically at the subconscious level.  This is especially so for victims of Narcissistic abuse because the conditioning occurs consistently, causing paralysis in the victim who doesn’t dare explore their available options.

If you “believe” that something is harmful to you, you naturally will fear it.

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Common fears instilled by the Narcissist:

  • You’re too old
  • You’re not…

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Daily update for my Boys 10 May 2014

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Hello Little Men!

I hope my muppets are having a great Saturday and keeping well…

I had a good day , got lots done , looking forward to chilling tomorrow a bit , only have some email stuff and a couple of Skype call to do …then some me time , I think … Need to say hello to Ouma also for Mother’s Day….

I need to go get my hair cut it feels like a 1960 come-over on my ever growing bold spot …don’t giggle you two , who knows you both might also have less hair than what you would like one day , I use to have loads until I think 5 years ago and then it was stable for a while but seems to have gone really bad the past six months ……..

O before I forget , I have to explain the wine glass holder picture , I hear they are all the range with the alcoholics at Hotel Aqua for the start of the 2014 Summer holiday season…. I hear some of the rooms have asked for them to be installed all over the place ……

I am told the paid surrogate also still continues to use OUR family name …really would have thought by know she would have sorted herself with a new alias seeing that she is trying to change yours !

I am get loads of spam on your blog the past 2 nights ,not sure what that is all about but at least it seems that the spam filter is blocking it ….

So Champs I wish you both a happy fun Sunday ……hope you are having a proper roast dinner……

I will see you monkeys later then under our big old green tree in dreamland as always …..for a good round of dream bear cuddles and giggles ….maybe even some monkey business ….lol 🙂

Night , night Little Men …..dream big of safer better normal days ……..

Love you tons and bigger than tons and miss you mega bigger than tons more ……

Love you Champs …..always ….

Dad xx

Pilgrims progress: taking change into our own hands

14 months in Karen and Peter Morey from Cafcass and Judge Singleton from the High Court Lancaster confirms that they have not and will not read either of the detailed long term parenting plans I have provide them being practical and logical with reasonable expectations from my side to build on contact with my boys , the stance is if mum says no , they will not stand up against her even if they can see she is wrong but they would rather support her PAS plan to ensure she gets her 1400 quid a month in benefits for keeping our boys hostage and in their minds it will make the case and issues go away so they can move on and collect more money from the government to start des toying more little ones lives , thus zero regards for the little ones , they just want the file of their desks , they have gone as far as to tell Social services to back off and not respond to me or investigate the case and serious long term potential harm issues growing up on benefits and a council estate !…Kind Regards Phill Ferreira

Loving and capable mothers CAN and DO lose their children to Parental Alienation

Great post guys 🙂

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Loving and capable mothers CAN and DO lose their children to Parental Alienation

Per Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.

In my experience an alienating parent needs three things: (1) motive to undermine the child’s relationship with the other parent, (2) access to the child, and (3) skillful use of alienation strategies. These are not the sole purview of either gender.

In my particular case, I believe we can definitely check off all 3 items on this list. (1) Vindictive Ex-Husband who wants to “get me back” for everything he perceives I have “done” to him the past 15 years. Ex-Husband got woman he had been dating for 5 months pregnant and had to marry her. Neither he nor new Step-Mom wanted him to continue paying me child support. (2) Full access to child thanks to a biased Family Court Judge who did not follow Florida case law and made decision based solely on…

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Just received from the Court Little Men !

Now what I find amusing here is that in 14 months the Court have ignored each and every parental responsibility I have but now Judge Singleton wants to make an order to protect the alcoholic drug addicted paid surrogates parental responsibility , just one more example of how bias and unprofessional Judge Singleton and the High Court Family Division in the UK is in fact

She is ignoring my repeated requests to the Court for N161 review and still have not confirmed how she will have this hearing on 28 May as the MFA said they need 4 months to arrange it but ones again she thinks she is above the law !

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