Daily update for my Boys 4 Jan 2014


Hello Little Muppets !

I hope you two monkeys are doing great and that the weather is a little better today !

It’s again not as hot here as what they said , that’s a good thing but it might still be coming….

Oupa has been in the garage today the whole day working on the lift for his bike-camper trailer thing , it’s looks pretty good now , least he does not need electricity to work it so all good …

Ouma has just been messing around in the house today not much news I am afraid.

I have been to go try and recharge my Vodacom wifi thing but the network has been down for two days so not much luck with that , I assume I will have to go to the mall to try tomorrow again..

Ouma decided we are going to braai tonight rather then go for a meal so I am looking forward to that , I must say I think I have had more red meat in the past 3 weeks as what I have had in 5 years before , lol , welcome to Africa as they say ….

The TV here has gone mad with back to school adds , as next week is the start of the new school year , we don’t start in September like you do in the UK as we have Summer Holidays in December , I think it better to start a school year with the calendar year , makes more sense …

Boys I hope you are having a fun and creative day with lots of smiles and happy times … I assume you are back in school on Monday also again , so you need to make the most of your last little bit of wild fun time …but I guess for you now school is just as much part of your wild fun time as any other normal day ……

Tomorrow is my last day of relaxing , I must say I am looking forward to getting back to work and some form of normality after the turmoil of the last 11 months …. Keeps me going and focused ….

I assume the last bit of sensitive information that I have provided to the Court yesterday they have decided to not share with all the parties due to the risk it poses to some of the people involved …I am sure I will get the back lash at some point but I know it was the right thing to do to protect you both from unsavoury people who form part of your lives at the moment.

Champs I miss you both so much today , was looking at the couple of pictures I have from you over the past month or so , can’t believe how much you have grown , can still hear your voices and the chats that day at the Cafcass office , shouting Dad , when you both saw me in the hall , brings a tear to my eye to be honest just thinking back now ….memories I guess that is what us 3 have , at least they can never take that away from us , hey boys !

Pals I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , so keen to see you both and give you each the biggest bear cuddle in the world ever……

Night , night little men , happy dreams of us 3 having some fun one day …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you a billion times more …

Love you my little O’s….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 3 Jan 2014



Hello Little O’s

How are my muppets doing today ? I hope fantastic ! ….

Boys I see there is a huge amount of bad weather warnings out all over the UK again today , so I really hope you both are safe , warm and looked after……. All I can do is hope ……

It’s a really nice day here again , not as hot as what they said yesterday but really nice , Ouma and I have been shopping , looks like most people are still on Holiday today as the shops are mega busy … I guess it’s all back to normal next week ! I saw some really cool school bags today but was not sure if I should get them for you as I don’t know what you are allowed at your school…or even where your school is ….

O before I forget I was standing in line to pay at one of the clothing shops and I saw twin boys they must have been about 11 I guess , one also blond and one dark and the one had a shirt he wanted to buy I guess for a school dance or something so his brother came back and he had the exact same shirt , I thought the blond boy was going to go mad , they spoke Afrikaans but He said to his brother ‘ listen we are twins I know that and you are my best friend but that does not mean we have to look like freaks ! Mum said we should buy what we each like , so stop copying me please! ‘

I had to smile as I guess that will be you two in a couple of years … The dark haired boy came back a couple of minutes later with the same shirt again just a different colour and his brother then seemed ok with the idea….boys I spend each thinking about how your little personalities are developing and how badly you both will be affected by the people who are around you each day !but as I have said before no matter what just always make sure you look out for each other no matter what your ‘family’ tries to do to you …..stand your ground for what is right …..

The weekend is here again believe it or not , I don’t have any major plans , I think Ouma and Oupa wants to go for dinner , that’s about it …need to catch up on some work stuff also and get the Court papers file sorted ,I am using Ouma’s new Hoover box to store it all in for you can’t believe it’s more than 8000 pages already and we still have a long way to go boys … So as and when you are ready you will have to take a week to sit down and read this all…if you want…

Boys not sure what your big plans are for the weekend but I hope it is safe , warm and fun , I suspect there might be a little bit of tension around you this weekend but you know what people need to know the truth ! People can only hide their real personalities and life style for so long until they get exposed for what they really are … You two will understand this one day ! I think the lesson here is be yourself always , if people don’t like it tuff , but never try and be a two face as it always , always bites you in the end ……

I asked your ‘spokesperson’ if I can see you both on 27 Feb the day before we go back to Court and 20 May on your birthday as I was not allowed to see you for Christmas or New Year , I am sure they will ignore the request again as they did for Christmas but I guess if you give a monkey enough rope he will hang himself ……

Well little boys I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , can’t wait to give you both a huge cuddle and tell you how much I miss and love you both….

Night , night Champs , sweet happy weekend dreams ….

Miss and love you both big oil tankers full and miss you more …

Love you pals …

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 2 Jan 2014



Hello Boys …

Happy 2nd Jan 2014 .. Lol , hope you two are doing really well…

I had a lovely day , we had a surprise visit from some family friends the Koekemoers , with their 2 little men , or I guess not so little now , the last time I saw them was a couple of months before you were born when I was home the last time .. The boys are lovely , makes me smile when they call me Oom ( uncle ) such a South African thing but I guess we have all been brought up always with that respect for people that are older than you , makes me sad knowing that you two might never have that in your life growing up in the UK ,

Been a fantastic day here weather wise also but looks like the next couple of days are going to be extremely hot ! Not going to be fun ….

O i had a email from one of my old friends from Dubai , they stay in Namibia now , they have a little boy that is a little younger than you both , I am going to try and go see them end of Jan or Middle Feb if my schedule allows as I have not seen them in about 4 years also now … Should be a fun trip ….

I started work on my Jan travel schedule looks like it is going to be a busy month but productive and I guess it keeps my mind of this mess us 3 are living each day ….

I guess you two must be doing your back to school shopping this week now as I assume you are going back to school next week , you two must be well excited to see your little friends again and get back to some fun learning activities …..

My friend Renette is getting married tomorrow , or I guess rather having her wedding party , I have not been able to make it to Cape Town to see them , I am a bit disappointed about it , but was just not able to get it arranged , you two might not remember her but I have some lovely pictures of her with you two when you were a couple of months old .. Her sister has twin boys also so I know she has a soft spot for you two , regardless of being not so happy with me for not making the wedding party…..

I am not sure what you two have got going on for the weekend but I hope it will be packed with loads of fun , smiles and happy time … And that it is not toooooo colddddddd… Lol

Champs I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , keep me a nice spot … Can’t wait to see you both and hold you for a minute ……

Love you both to the moon and back a billion x 90000000000000 times and miss you more …

Night , night my little Super Stars …. Happy warm cosy dreams …..

Love you lots pals ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 1 Jan 2014






Hello my little O’s

Hope you two have had a great start to 2014 …..

Well as you can see I have had a busy day on the blog , learned loads… Had some very interesting emails about a Channel 4 documentary being done re Family Law in the UK and child contact , looks like this will be a great way for us to promote our fight for a normal relationship…..

I am so surprised about all the random support that is coming in for this battle , your blog had 2002 visitors today an all time high for the 4 weeks since I started doing it , it just shows me how many people care about you and love you and how many people ,mums and dads are going down the same road and have the same issues ….. Least we are not alone , hey boys ….

You will see the video of the young lady that is now living with her Dad for 2 years , I must say it brought a tear to my eye , yes I know I am a softy … Lol ,maybe one day boys … Who knows….

Well since I got up this morning I have been dealing with all the posts , emails and YouTube links I have been sent … Looks like this is now becoming a full time job for me , but you know what if our fight helps one other child to have a normal stable relationship with his or hers mum or dad then it’s all been worth the effort …. We as mums and dads and children who are living these battles are the only people that will be able to bring the change by speaking up and to continue the fight no matter what … Always remember that ….

So I assume you to monkeys have had a lazy day also playing at home or maybe you went to the Zoo again , whatever you did I hope it was mega fun and safe ……

O before forget in added a couple of pictures I have been sent which I thought was very appropriate to out situation … Hope you both also think the baby ones are a little funny … I did , lol

I guess you would have received the wildlife DVDs by now , I really hope you both like them….

Well little champs as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land … Can’t wait to give you both a huge jungle bear cuddle and wish you a happy new year again and tell you both how much I miss and love you … Always in my thoughts each minute of each day ….

Night , night little Lion King fans , sweet happy jungle dreams ….

Love you both so , so much ….. Miss you champs ….

Dad xx

A message from Ouma and Oupa boys


Hello Little men ,

Ouma and Oupa wanted to post this for you but I am not sure how to do it , lol I know I know , I am sure you two can show me in one second ….

“Oscar and Oliver with broken hearts we just want to forward this little message to you both for New Year. You are always in our thoughts and prayers. Maybe one day in the future we will have contact. Love you forever and a day. From Ouma and Oupa in a far , far away country.

Night , night pals …

Love you Dad xxx

Daily update for my Boys 31 Dec 2013 – A New Years wish ….2014


Hello Muppets !

Hope you two are well and ready for 2014 .. Not long now ….

The picture today I thought might make you both smile as it always give me a little hope when I look at it …. Happy times ….

Boys I am really sorry that once again I am not allowed to see you or speak with you in person to wish you both the best of the best year for 2014 …. So I guess this is what it will have to be for now ….

A New Years wish for my Oliver and Oscar

Peace within your heart
Love from family and friends
Faith to guide your way
Hope to to make it through each day
Sunshine to light the day
Heavenly Stars to wish upon
Rainbows to to let you know there is a tomorrow
A tear to show compassion
A heart to hold the love
But most of all I wish for you
to feel my hand in yours,
To know I am here if you stumble or fall.
To bring you cheer, to bring you love,
to return the love you always share with me…….

Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment and happiness ……

H ours of happy times with friends and family
A bundant time for relaxation , fun and playtime
P rosperity…..
P lenty of love when you need it the most
Y outhful excitement at lifes simple pleasures…. Smile , giggle …

N ights of restful slumber (you know – dont’ worry be happy) Akuna Mata ….. No worries ….
E verything you need always ….
W ishing you love and light

Y ears and years of good health
E njoyment and mirth
A angels to watch over you
R embrances of a happy years us 3 have had …..

Well boys this wish is a mouth full but it comes from my heart ….. Really hope you get to read it one day …..

So boys whatever you are doing today , I hope you are safe , well , happy and looked after , O and have fun , smile , laugh and be little men as you should be ……..

I might be a little late tonight to meet you both under our big old green tree in dream land because we are going out as I said yesterday but don’t worry I will be there as soon as I can as I can’t wait to hold you both and wish you a very a Happy New year and give you both a huge bear cuddle and tell you how much I love and miss you both ….

Night , night little New Years party animals … Sweet happy 2014 dreams of us 3 having some normal fun time together …. We can dream … No one can take that away from us boys always remember that ….

I love and miss you both so much ……… Hope you both know that always …..

Love you into 2014 and each and every day for the rest of my life ….

Dad xx