What I asked the High Court for in Feb Little men …….

In The Lancaster High Court Case Number: LA13P00059
24 February 2014
In the matter of the Children Act 1989
And in the matter of Oliver James and Oscar Alexander born 20 May 2011

Between: Whilhelm Philippus Ferreira Applicant
AND
Jayne Elizabeth Ferreira Respondent
AND
Oscar and Oliver Ferreira Second Respondents
(Children by their r16.4 Children’s guardian Peter Morley)
Position Statement for hearing 28 February 2014 by HHJ Singleton QC at the High Court Blackburn.

Statement to confirm goals of Mr. WP Ferreira for this listed hearing

I Whilhelm Philippus Ferreira of a confidential address Will STATE as follows:
I make this statement pursuant to the upcoming hearing on 28 February 2014 listed in front of HHJ Singleton QC in the High Court Blackburn, I have prepared this statement personally and as such it will be submitted to the Court and other respondents by email.

I have now had the opportunity to have sight of the statements from the respondents and as such felt it necessary to clearly set out the goals I would like this listed hearing to achieve in the matter of Contact with our Children.

Further to the final order made by this Court on 29 November 2013 and updated on 5 December 2013 I confirm that I have no objection to the contact being suggested between me and our boys to take place four times per year, the original order does not give clarity on the duration of the suggested contact nor the venue and required agreements to make the proposed contact happen.
As such I would like the Court to clarify this issue and would like to make the following suggestions / requests in this regard;
1. Contact to take place four times a year for 4 to 5 consecutive days, thus allowing the contact to be beneficial to our boys to allow them to develop a normal relationship with me and not cause them distress or confusion on what my role in their lives is in fact.
2. I should be allowed to include my parents, the boys nominated Godparents and or possible new partner in any and all contact relating to our boys.
3. Contact should be allowed unsupervised or by a mutually agreed party by myself and the care giver.
4. As the boys are still young this contact should be allowed for half days, either morning or afternoon or alternated during the 4 to 5 day period whiles I will be in the UK.
5. All contact dates until the age of 6 should be agreed in Court today if possible and recorded in full detail thus allowing me to enforce committal of the care giver should she once again decide to ignore the contact order. After this period I suggest we return to Court to set out the full details for the following 5 years thus limiting the time and costs spent by all parties in making additional applications to the Court.
6. The care giver should not be allowed to remove or travel with our boys from the UK without confirming dates and destinations with myself until our boys are 16 years old.
7. As the boys get older contact should be extended to overnight stays in a hotel once the boys are able to understand the change of environment, I would suggest this is a possibility from the age of 5 or 6 years old.
8. Once the boys start School contact can be arranged during the School holidays but for the next 4 years I do not see the logic of this being only allowed during school holidays and as such will come at a massive premium when you look at traveling costs during the suggested Holiday periods.
9. Skype/ phone contact should be included twice a week for 15 minutes with myself and my parents to help the boys develop a relationship with myself and my extended family which would be normal. As the boys get older the Court order should allow for email contact if the boys choses to do so.
10. Birthdays should be agreed on a yearly alternating schedule thus allowing myself and my family to be allowed to share in special days with the boys.
11. Christmas holidays should be agreed on a yearly alternating schedule thus allowing myself and my family to be allowed to share in special days with the boys.
12. Indirect contact should be allowed by way of post and gift delivery service on the alternating years for Birthdays and Christmas thus once again to allow myself and my family to develop a normal relationship with the boys.
13. By the age of 6 or 7 years old I would like the boys to be allowed to be taken on extended days for Holiday outings within the UK at agreed Holiday parks or venues by myself and my family.
14. By the age of 9 or 10 I would like to be able to travel with the boys to South Africa to allow them to meet their extended family and learn a little of the culture and heritage this Court is depriving them from having as toddlers.
15. I would like to receive copies of all written reports in regards to the boy’s medical issues and Schooling.
16. I would like to be provided with any School or extra-curricular activities thus being given the opportunity to be allowed to show my support and participate should this be practically possible.
17. As the boys get older they should be allowed free and daily contact with me and my family should they choose to do so.
18. By the age of 10 or 12 the Court and Cafcass should allow the boys the option to decide if they would like to continue residing with the care giver or if they would prefer to come and reside with myself.
19. The boys should be allowed to exercise their Human Rights to have South African passports and as such dual nationality ASAP.
20. By the age of 16 the boys should be provided with a full set of documents in regards to this case for them to see the actions and behaviors of both myself and their care giver in their early years.
21. All Schools , Doctors and supplementary care givers should be mutually agreed by myself and the care giver as to ensure that the welfare of the boys are always placed first.
22. Until the boys are of an age that they are able to provide updates themselves I would like to have monthly updates with photo’s but I do not wish to receive this information if the care giver is being forced to provide this by way of a Court order as this would not be fair to expected her to do so long term, as such this needs to be done out of her own free will as a loving and caring care giver wanting to share the achievements and development progress of our boys.
23. I do not want Mr. Steve Mcclure to have any form of contact with our boys until the Court and CAFCASS have done a full risk and psychological evaluation to confirm he is a safe and mentally competent 70 year old to be allowed around our boys as I have very serious concerns about this man that I have continued to bring to the Courts attention since April 2013, but no action or investigation has in fact been done to secure our boys from this man. He should not be allowed after this to drive or be left alone with our boys at all.
24. I would request the Court to put a long term plan in place as stated above thus ensuring that we do not need to return to Court on an ongoing basis to address the issues relating to contact and our boys developing a stable normal relationship with both myself and my family.
25. I would like the Court to ensure that there is NO requirement for contact between myself and the care giver in regards to contact after this hearing or matters relating to our boys. As such I suggest the Court appoints Mr. & Mrs. McClelland the boys Godparents as the only point of contact between myself and the care giver should a requirement arise at any point until the boys are 16 years old at which point they will be able to make the required arrangements with me directly.
26. I would the Court to give consideration to the independent psychological report provided by Mr. Henk Swanepoel when making final directions in this matter.
Kind Regards,

WP Ferreira

Control Games with Words

A good article on PAS …

Ms. Donna's avatarFrom Torn 2 Pieces 2 Peace

If you fear having feelings independent of and in opposition to one of your parents and becoming a target of rejection you’ve seen him or her direct at others who disagree, you’re likely being manipulated.

You (or a friend) may have a parent who is so controlling and possessive, he or she will want to cut those you love (or once loved) out of your life.  This hurts. It hurts because, among other things, it’s not loving.  It’s called Parental Alienation, and some experts call it “the worst form of child abuse.”  imagesCAZ5BLXM

Tragically, some parents will use the following to cut your other parent out of your life:

  • guilt (e.g., “I don’t know why your father left us; everything seemed okay”);

  • intimidation (e.g., “Go to your mother’s if you want, but you are not to hug her cute little boyfriend anymore. Do you understand?”);

  • fear (e.g., “I just want you kids to know that I’11 be here the whole time…

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Daily update for my Boys 18 March 2014

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Hello little men….

How are my muppets doing this afternoon ?….I hope great …

Well it’s been a nice day here , still a little cloudy but no rain so that’s good …

I went out this morning to help Oupa with some things he had to sort on the small show bike he restored … The rest of the day has been a bit of a lazy one if I am honest ….not feeling great … So just been taking it easy….

Ouma packed all the Court stuff at her house , so this is also now all boxed and ready for you both to read one day should you wish to do so….

O I gave Ouma the cordless phones from the house …I think there is still a message on of you two monkeys picking up the phone and giggling and playing in the back ground …..guess she will keep that always to know what you both sound like …..

It’s long weekend here this week , well actually Thursday is public holiday but it seems most people are taking Friday off also …. I think it is Human rights day here if I have it right ……

If I am feeling better tomorrow I think I will go to the Mall a bit , maybe take in a movie and a banana muffin ….yum , yum ……

I need to get the 4 x4 washed also as it is covered in mud from going to the dam the weekend but I have been putting it of until I know the rain is gone as knowing my luck , we will get a storm the minute I drive off from the car wash…..

Been missing you both lots today , all your picture frames have now been unpacked also , the picture are from your School in Horam so they are more then a year old now already , but they still make me smile each time I walk into my bedroom and I see them …..

I hope you have chosen your favourite toy already to take to hospital Olibear on friday …..thinking off you lots just really sorry your paid surrogate is not allowing me , Ouma and Oupa to wish you luck for the operation…but just know our thoughts are with you ..I know it will all go well….

O and I hope you have made a list of fun things you want to do on Friday also Oscar as I am sure you will be left in the care of your paid surrogates child abusing family ….or even the old drunk …really sorry that you are stuck with these horrible people …… Hope you will be ok being left with these child abusers and drunks for a whole day ……

I have gone to look twice now also for some nice Easter cards for you both but the shops don’t have any yet , I guess as far as I know Easter is not really a holiday we send cards for in South Africa thus I might have to get my glue stick and colouring pencils out to make you both some cards …maybe some chic feathers and macaroni is the way to go …lol , I was always really bad at these type of things in school and as a child but hey for you two I am happy to try and have a go but you both are not allowed to laugh at my handy work….lol

Well champs as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land ….can’t wait for my little man double cuddles and dream smiles …..

Night , night my little big dreamers ……sleep well

Love you both around the world and back and miss you lots and lots and lots more …..

Love you always little men…

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 17 March 2014

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Hello Little Men….

How are you two doing today ? I hope fantastic….

You are not going to believe it Champs , it looks like the rain is back … Feels like I am back in the UK…lol

I had a busy day here running around sorting lots of little things but it needed to be done , I am also helping out on a couple of Facebook pages now so I need to get the links so I can post them here…. They all are very relevant to what us 3 are dealing with and might make some good reading for you two one day …. Maybe when you are a little older as I would not say it is light entertainment reading for little men…. Just yet …

Sorry I have not gotten round to the video update as promised , I will do my best to get it sorted tomorrow….

Clare the nice lady we have been chatting to on here is going into Court tomorrow re her little ones ….so I really hope it goes well for them , as I told her today is , that she can only do her best and stay strong …all will be fine in the end …..

I wonder what you two muppets have up your sleeve for this week , I know Oliver has his operation and I hope you have some fun plans Oscar as I am pretty sure Olibear is not going to want to play when he gets home , but knowing you champ you would be quite happy playing by yourself and having the run of the house all for yourself…..

I have been sleeping better but still feels like a train had hit me when I wake up in the morning …not sure what is going on , this morning I was awake at 6am but decided to go back to sleep and when I woke at 8 am it felt like I had not slept at all , guess it is the same as me not being able to nap during the day as for when I wake , then I am like a bear with a sore tooth …lol , not a happy camper as they saying goes…..

Well pals , hope you both are doing well , having lots of playtime , feeding B&B extra Oreo biscuits and snacks to make them both big and strong pups like you both……

So little men…I will be waiting under our big old green tree in dreamland later tonight as normal with big bear cuddles for you both ….

Night , night pals …dream big , remember the sky is the limit and nothing is impossible…..

Love and miss you both very much , each and every day all the time ….

Love you my little O’s ….always …

Dad xx

Former Wife’s Emergency Motion for Contempt/Enforcement and for Appointment of Alienation Expert

Family Court Victim's avatarFAMILY COURT VICTIM

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So here I am. On a gray, rainy and cold day looking at yet another 14 page Emergency Motion for Contempt to be filed with the court. My lawyer has recently prepared this and wants me to review it so that she can file it. I used to get so excited over these. Because I thought it meant surely change would now happen. Surely, my ex-husband would be held accountable now. Surely, the Judge would now see my ex-husband as clearly as I do. But, this is my 5th one in 18 months. I don’t get excited anymore. Now I just shrug my shoulders and dread even reading it and editing it. What is the point? All it does is remind me how horribly my daughter and myself have been treated by the family court system and how I have no control over it. Besides, as usual, my lawyer has waited so long that it is likely…

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Who Owns Ya?

A very good article Anja , as. dad that has been dealing with this for over a year an d no end in sight … We need to speak up and spread the word as things have change …..

anja eriud's avatarNot A Feminist

It’s a particularly Irish expression – and it relates to children. Usually said if a child has been caught “up to no good” and sure what child hasn’t been?

But, when an adult did, or in some case still does, catch one of these little rascals  in the act – the first thing they want to know is “who owns ya” generally followed by “ya lttle skelp”” because parents are ultimately responsible for what their children get up too.

Now, the concept of “ownership” in relation to children in this instance isn’t the same as ownership of inanimate property, or wasn’t, but as I said above, a concept whereby parents were responsible for what their children got up too, when out and about, or out of sight of their parents beady eyes.

All that has changed – because of feminism – in…

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