Time for a change…

Andrew Ellery

You may have notice that this blog hasn’t been updated in some time. I have experienced a significant period of writers block that I have become very frustrated with and have spent the last few weeks reflecting on. Having given it considerable thought, I’ve decided I’ll write up my thoughts and share with my blog followers.

Those of you that follow me on twitter will notice that I can be quite guarded about what I do for a living. Over the past 9 months or so my career has taken me down a more specialist path, something that I had never planned for. In truth I always saw myself as remaining more of a generalist. Whilst I am very much enjoying my work – and hope that things continue in the direction they are going – as someone who has enjoyed writing and sharing my views, specialising professionally has presented…

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Daily update for my Boys 27 June 2014

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Good evening Little Men !

How are my muppets doing today ? I hope well and ready for a fun and safe weekend ahead 🙂

Champs , not sure why but your blog and twitter accounts have had huge traffic last night , I want to say a big thank you to all the new readers and followers who are taking the time to read our boys story ….if they could I am pretty sure the would blow you all a huge kiss as only they can to say Thank You for all the support and messages filled with kind words , advice , logic and also for sharing your stories , it means the world ! I think what last night showed me again is , this is not a mum or dad issues but both and of course the little ones suffering the PAS child abuse caused by the alienator and their family……

Don’t get me wrong , I had plenty of people telling me last night not to post the Court documents but as I have been doing this now for over six months I will not back down now , be that right or wrong , but people need to know the truth of how the family law system works in the UK and how they try and cover their misconduct and incompetence , O and don’t forget the fact that NON of them read any of the stuff they keep asking you or your solicitor to prepare , it’s all about keeping the money coming in for Cafcass and the solicitors , nothing more , nothing less.

Enough ranting ! Lol !

My day was a bit of a mess if I am honest , people running late , meetings canceled , people not showing up etc. I guess we all get days like this sometimes….

Tomorrow is my last day here for a while , I think , so am pretty ready to get home and sleep in my own bed and have some normal , food like cheese on toast …lol …. As I have always said room service is overrated if you stay in the same hotel for long periods at a time ….

Well monkeys I need to go get some food , so I might venture out for a bit as all I have had today was my boost at 6 am and then my 8 am mocha from Gloria Jeans.

I hope you both have plenty of fun and safe plans up your little sleeves for the weekend as little men should 🙂

Can’t wait to see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland for some big double O bear cuddles and dream smiles …

Night , night Champs ….dream big for nothing is impossible …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you a trillion times more ….

Love you Little Men ……always ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 26 June 2014

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Good evening Little Men!

I hope my Champs are doing well and that you both are oki doki and safe !

As I am sure you both would have seen we got some directions and new orders today from Judge Jeremy Rawkins the DFJ for Lancashire , as you can see once again it is very , very clear that he has not read the case file nor did he take the time to even quote the orders from his own Court correctly ! Don’t know why I am surprised , I think maybe I hoped based on the fact that he took 30 days to respond that he would take the time to understand this case from its start on 1 April 2013 , but no , once again a 10 minute slapped together response that contradicts all the previous orders and issues.

I can not believe this guy wants more statements , unlike Cafcass and Jayne I have not changed my stance in each and every statement thus far , so I have decided that I Will Not file any more statements , I will write them a very nice response to this new order to confirm this fact and tell them to Read as that is what they are paid for and my position and stance re contact remains the same as what I have suggested in the Feb 2014 statements.

Enough about these incompetent child abusers !

I had a good day here , wrapped up most of the pending things , we have no power at the factory tomorrow again so I will be in town for some meetings most of the day I guess , I have said to the lads that I will see them all at the factory on Saturday again and then we all can have a bite together before I head out 🙂 it’s been a pretty good 2 months , I am really proud and pleased with the local team , they have done a great job.

Just spoke to Ouma and Oupa also after they have read the Court stuff , Ouma is convinced it’s all just a ploy to get me to Court so they can send me to jail , if that is the case , so be it , but as I have said before they better send me down for life ….:-) , at least I will be able to see you monkeys every weekend , so as always each dark cloud has it’s silver lining.

Ouma sounded a little better tonight and they both send all their love and big cuddles 🙂

Well Champs , as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland ….looking forward to some dream a Little O cuddles and smiles …..

Night , night Little Men …..happy dreams of us 3 spending some time together one day 🙂

Love you both lots and miss you much bigger lots more …

Love you Champs ……always …

Dad xx

Crossing the toxic sea, in a sail boat made of sand.

Karen Woodall

This week I have been thinking about the way in which children at risk of alienation make transitions to and from their parents.  I have been thinking about how, when parents separate, their first psycholgocial reaction is to retreat back to their family of origin how this, if it is an unhealthy environment, becomes the crucible for developing an alienation reaction.

For our family of origin, our tribe, our primitive sense of identity and belonging, is the place where we learn to be who we are.  Who we are, in relationship to others, is driven by the messages and the teachings we received in the bosom of our family, however that was constructed around us.

When we enter into a relationship with another, our task, after the biological business of falling in love and bonding is done, is to find a way to weave together the two sides of our…

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Daily update for my Boys 25 June 2014

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Hello Little Men !

How are you two monkeys doing this evening ? I hope that you are well and safe …….

I had to giggle now , I just had dinner at the Italian restaurant here in the hotel and thus far the past 2 months I have had pizza from them when ever I stopped in , so tonight I decided to live on the wild side and as such I ordered macaroni and cheese , now don’t get me wrong , I know in South Africa we make it with egg and bacon and white sauce , you in the UK again just do plain pasta with white sauce which I personally don’t like , so when I got my meal it looked the part as it was oven baked with loads if nice brown crispy cheese on top …..first bite in and what do I find ? Chicken , corn and pineapple …. So I must say that it was a first for me ! Keep in mind the menu just says macaroni and cheese , no mention of the add in , lol …but hey I was starving so it was not that bad , might even try it again one day 🙂

Over and above my culinary diverse experience a pretty normal day , got lots done at work but had to come to town early as I had to go to the local bank to arrange some swift TT’s , not as painful as what I expected , the traffic back to the hotel , a nightmare ! …. Sounds like a master card add gone wrong , lol

I spoke to Ouma this morning , she seems to not be doing well , not sure what is going on but she did not sound well , and you will never really know the whole story with her when it comes to not being well , but I have told her to go to the Dr , so she tells me yes she is , on 4 Aug ! So I told her that’s just silly she can’t wait for her next follow up at cardiology , she needs to ring them and say something is up , she In turn then tells me very proudly that she has stopped her medication ! Lol , what to do , I some days don’t know who is worse her or Oupa when it comes to going to the Dr. , they both send all their love and big cyber cuddles your way !

I must say I am pretty ready to go home now and enjoy some nice cool weather 🙂 if only for a couple of days ….

So Champs , I hope you both are having a fun week thus far with lots of giggles and plenty of learning ….and that you are safe !

Can’t wait to see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , looking forward to some dream icy bear cuddles ……

Night , night Little Men ….sweet dreams of happy days 🙂

Love you both around the world and back and miss you both tttthhhhiiiiiisssss much !

Love you , Champs ….always …

Dad xx