The reason I will NOT take up supervised contact little men…

Your alcoholic drug addicted paid surrogate Jayne E Ferreira , Judge Singleton from Lancaster High Court and Peter Morey from Cafcass Blackburn office says this is in your best interest , I think all these people must be on Drugs ! Or delusional ….
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Anonymous

I need some fatherly advice right now…. and i was wondering in you could help me with this torn feeling I’m having. I have supervised visits with my daughters and I love them with everything that I am would gladly go to hell and burn for all eternity just to keep them from ever being hurt again. My dilemma is that it is really hurting me and them going to these visits because they want to come to my house and they dont understand why they cant they are 4 and 2. It hurts so bad hearing them cry daddy please don’t go and I wanna go home with you daddy that I cry the entire 30 min drive home every week. I want to stop the visits until after the court date so that We don’t feel this heartache and have the tears shed anymore but I don’t want to be a bad dad for not seeing them whenever i can please if you have any advice on want I should do please contact me and one day I will tell you my story of why all of this come to light and you WON’T believe it. I have Visitation court in 15 days

By: Admin

Trust me…
….I will believe it.

Supervised visits are pretty standard for dads that become separated or do or end from the mother.

I myself was a loving involved Father for 11 years. A stay home dad and the so called “primary caretaker” for many of those years.

Yet in less then 30 minutes and a judges gavel I was reduced to a visitor to my children.

Only allowed in their presence with a 3rd party monitoring my every move, our every word and documenting it for review and critiqued.

I endured this visitations for an entire year.

An extremely humiliating experience to say the least.

Damaging to the parent/child bond and relationship.

Emotionally draining. Emotional torture to both my children and myself.

Something that should only be required or implemented in my opinion in cases that include actual and Real Abuse beyond a reasonable doubt.

Unfortunately, that is not the case.

Supervised visits for the Father during a separation are becoming the standard.

With that said.

You need to endure them.

You need to continue them.

If you do not, it is my opinion it will be held against you as not desiring to be with your children.

They will say you do not show interest in having the time they are granting you with your children.

Why should you be allowed additional time?

Others on the page may have a different view.

I will post to the page for additional feedback.

Respectfully,

Thomas Fidler

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3 thoughts on “The reason I will NOT take up supervised contact little men…

  1. Part of being a parent, is the pain that comes with it, no matter what that means when love is present.
    The dad I mentored who committed suicide this last December would have given up everything to have these twisted visitation, because ultimately, she was successful in allowing none. She and her father had wealth.

    Anyway, continue the visits. Deal with the pain and tell yourself you’re doing it for THEM. Even if they are very upset, it’s better than not seeing them at all. It is also a chance to prove that you are the parent you say you are. Also, there are way to make the time together as pleasant as possible and one must be creative, but we never, EVER consider leaving our children, not doing the visitation because it’s painful. They are watching and in the end, if you’re proven to be a wonderful father….how can they deny you more? YOU make the ex look like the pathological ass hat that she is.

    Please reconsider. when we love our children, no matter how painful it might be,we will weather any storm. FOR THEM…focusing on the long term goal, helps.

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    • I agree but I think what you need to keep in mind is I had to leave the UK as the x was my sponsor I now have to travel half way around the world to see our boys for 2 hours 4 times a year , each visit costs around 2000 UK pounds for 2 hours , and Coreassets the provider said I am to high risk because of my blog so even them as a hired armed security firm will not work with my family as my x father in law went to visit them and after that they turned us down … I have seen our boys only for 10 hours total in the past year already , so by now I have to make peace with the fact that they have no clue whom I am any more …..breaks my heart but this is what my x and her father wanted ….

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