Is It a Bad Thing to Want to Give Our Kids a Magical Childhood?

Alicia's avatarA Magical Childhood

Last week, a blog post went viral about why parents should stop trying to give their kids a magical childhood. 

One of my friends shared it on her Facebook wall and yesterday a speaker at a sustainability conference even recommended it, saying that parents today spend too much time “on those things like Pinterest” and “working so hard to make their children’s live magical.”

“They’re just making their own lives harder,” she scoffed, “trying to make everything perfect.”

Then she said it’s because we mothers are addicted to stress.

Yes, it turns out we secretly like stress and so the quest to make childhood fun is some deep, psychological quest to make ourselves unhappy.

Or something like that.  I had a really hard time understanding the logic in any of it.

These people seem to completely miss the point about what makes a childhood magical, and why some of us…

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Daily update for my Boys 12 April 2014

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Hello Little Men…

How are you two muppets doing today? I hope oki doki …..

Taking a break from reports so thought it the opportune time to write you both and say hello….

It’s a lovely bright sunny day here but cool , I had to go get a jumper where I was sitting working at my desk , I even have a pair of socks on today as you both might not know , I do not like wearing socks and shoes in the house but my toes are freezing …… If I get my way I would go barefoot always …lol, guess that is part of growing up in Africa , I smile each time I am out at the Mall and shops in the afternoon and you see the little ones with their parents after school walking around barefoot….happy days ….I think…lol

Not sure why but I was awake really early this morning , maybe because my mind knew I had to get stuff done today … Now it feels like I am ready for a nap but daytime naps are no good for me as I wake up like a bear with three sore teeth ….lol ….

Ouma texted to say she is very keen for some hot cross buns or Easter buns as you will call them …don’t think I have had one yet this year … I see them in the shop but for me they must be fresh and warm out of the oven with loads of butter ….yum , yum….. You monkeys I think will love them also as I know you like raisins ….hope you have tried them as I think last year you were still little…..

I think I will have to go get the stuff for next weekend tomorrow as Friday and Monday is public holiday here so the Mall will be a mad house I think ….

Well Champs I hope you are having a nice fun Saturday …not sure what you are doing today but I hope you are safe and loved ….. O that reminds me , did you see the picture of the little boy with his puppy ? Made me smile and think of you both with B&B , I hope they are well also and that you four are having lots of happy days and making great memories……least I know you are getting some love from them if not from your hostage takers…..

So muppets I guess I will then see you both later tonight under our big old green tree in dreamland …..please pack big warm bear cuddles and dream smiles…..

Night , night Little Men …. Big dreams of oven fresh hot cross buns ……

Love you both around the world and back and miss you so much more ……

Love you a Little Men…..always ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 11 April 2014

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Good Evening Little Men !

Hope you both are doing really well today …

Sorry I am a bit late , I had a work lunch that took a little longer than expected….

I must say I am pretty pleased the weekend is here , it feels like it has been a very long week , I need to do some work stuff tomorrow also for a conference call on Sunday ….more reports and stats …lol …fun weekend in other words ….

I just had a call from my friend Gerhard , looks like I am going to spend the Easter weekend with them at the dam next week , so that should be fun ….

I hope you muppets have lots of exciting plans for the weekend ….plenty of giggles and outside playtime I hope …..

Have a great weekend Champs …

I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land ….big dream bear cuddles tonight please ….

Night , night Little men , fun happy weekend dreams ….

Love you both to the moon and back and miss you a billion times more ….

Love you Champs ….always …

Dad xx

Ouma and Oupa just emailed me this for you Little Men .. Xx

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Hi Little “O”’s

Trust you well?

I received an email from your Daddy with a formal request to the Court
from the surrogate to change your names.

Now I wonder if that “woman” realise when the water was poured over
your two foreheads on 25 September 2011 signified your cleanse of sin, followed
by the formal giving of your name’s…..That she can ever erase or take those
formal names away from you?

Can she really be so silly and or stupid?

What does Christening mean to her?

I will leave it at that and let the Court make the judgement.
Ouma and Oupa will from now on pray: “God forgive us for not forgiving her” for being so childish.

Just remember that important day we witnessed your Christening.
(Even have a photo to prove it)

Love you forever and ever no matter what your names are xxx

Take care Little “O”s

A Controlling Narcissistic Sociopath

A great article as always Tela 🙂 , Thank you !

Tela's avatarSociopathHell.Com

Control is what feeds a Narcissist, Sociopath and Psychopath. Control to them is like the feeling of love we have. Love is a purpose in living, it is inherent in everything we do. The difference between the Narcissist Sociopath is their control equates to this:

  • “if you loved me you would……..”
  • compromising who you are ~ the sociopath will say things to make you change your mind, beliefs, lifestyle, thought process. They get inside your head and start controlling you. There is always compromise with couples, this is not to be confused with control!
  • lust ~ the sociopath will instill not only a physical but mental lust under their control. The mental lust is you are constantly wanting approval from them. You are needing validation as an important part of the relationship. You are lusting for equality with them.

How do they go about this control? As with everything they do…

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