John Hemming: We must change the way family courts are run

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Birmingham MP says a lot of human misery is being caused by the UK’s family law

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by John Hemming

Family law, particularly when it involves more than one country, is a complex issue involving a number of very sensitive issues. However, the machinery has been hidden away and is only now partially coming to the surface.

The story of the woman who was sectioned on a visit to Essex, subjected to a forced caesarean and then had her baby put up for adoption had a lot of publicity last year. As a result of this we can see some of the detail behind this.

I always think it is a good idea to look at things from the perspective of the children. Her baby daughter is now one. She has two sisters. Families are important to people and sibling relationships are important to children and adults.

When she gets to…

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Daily update for my Boys 11 Jan 2014

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Good afternoon you two !

Hope my Champs are doing well today …..

I have had a bit of a mind numbing day with all the legal stuff I have been sent for our next Court Date in Feb , I am just absolutely overwhelmed with how many children and mums and dads in the UK are having the same battle as us 3 but as I have said if we can make it better or different for one child or adult then it has been worth all the effort.

Its great how much you learn from other peoples cases and see the wrongs in your own when other people point it out to you but as the saying goes the wheel turns be it slowly but it does that I believe with all my heart.

I am also about eight pages into ‘our story’ for the UK documentary I have been asked to participate in I need to try and send the draft outline to the producer chap next week , they have asked if I want my name and face disguised while recording but I have told them I have nothing to hide , should I then end up in jail our case will become a criminal matter which will allow for even more exposure of the family law legal system in the UK , so I guess a small price to pay… O and I can then post it on YouTube for you both to watch one day if you like , maybe it will help you understand that I have and never will give you both up no matter how hard people and the system try……

Hope you two had a fun day doing whatever you might have done …. As long as it was fun and safe then I am happy ….

Can’t believe we are one week further into this mess I guess it will be a year before we know it and I assume we have many , many mores years of this battle still to come the way things stand now …but you know what boys it will all be worth it at the end of the day , just really sorry that you both have to suffer alone with the people who surround you …..keep strong …this too will pass as they say ……

Well my little O’s I hope you two are planning a huge Sunday lunch feast , with a long nap and lots of play time for tomorrow ……will be thinking of you both……

Boys I will see you both under our big old green tree in dream land tonight …. Keep me a nice spot …. Can’t wait for my bear cuddles and smiles….

Night , night little men , happy big Sunday lunch dreams for you both…

Miss and love you both oil tankers full and more …..

Love you pals ….

Dadxx

Daily update for my Boys 10 Jan 2014

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Hello little Muppets,

Hope you two are on top of the world today and doing great…..

The two pictures above made me smile , the baby with the dog is six months old and he is now already sitting at the front door at home time waiting for his Daddy …… Reminded me of how happy you two use to be when I got home from work , you would hardly let me get in the door ….happy days , hey little men , but I assume you both again will not have any memory of that any more , if you look in the picture archive on the blog there is a picture of you both sitting on me on the stairs one morning when I came back from a work trip to Turkey, you both would not let me go …. Makes me happy and sad thinking about that , can’t really explain ,guess it is part of my so called personality disorder , or I personally think it’s called being a Daddy who loves his little boys with all his heart…even if the legal system says I am a freak for showing any emotion…..

So I have done absolutely nothing today … Not a thing , well , I did shower , brush my teeth and get dressed , don’t worry , I am not losing it just yet…. But that was the extent of my activities…. I guess that’s all part of my new life as a person devoting his all into trying to get a normal relationship with you both …google is my best friend , lol …..think I am developing iPad thumb …lol

Oupa is still not doing well but is refusing to go back to hospital so Ouma and might have to drag him there later if he stays the same , not sure what is going on but have never seen him like this before , Ouma and I had a good giggle last night as his nurse told us the name of some tablets that will help with his ears so I went to get them yesterday but it says it is for motion sickness so Ouma and I are not convinced they will work but he swears by them as he had them once before … So Ouma is giving them to him 3 times a day , so now this afternoon he tells us he is feeling better but we think that is just a ploy so we don’t take him back to hospital , I know we are joking about it but he is really not well….

I guess you two little monkeys are in school today , if you are I hope you had lots of fun and learned heaps …. Would love to one day again see you both interact with all your little friends also not just us 3 locked in a room with a person watching us ….scary if you write it down , but that’s what we have got for NOW ! …… NOT much longer boys that I promise ……

I hope you two have lots of plans for the weekend and that the weather will be nice and not cold and wet….. So you can maybe go see the outside animals at the Zoo…..would be nice I think…

Still no news about your operation Oliver so as I have said before we are all thinking of you and hope you are safe , in one piece and it all went well or will go well , in our thoughts you both are each day all the time …..

Boys as always I hope to see you both tonight under our big old green tree in dream land …can’t wait to give you both a big mountain bear cuddle …..

Night night , my little Jungle book lovers , sweet jungle dreams ….

Miss and love you both more that the size of the Amazon jungle …..

Love you boys …..always …

Dad xx