Disneyland Dad

I was asked to explain what a Disneyland Dad was.

While their are much better writings and explanations than this out in the Internet, here is my description of being a Disneyland Dad.

~Tom

A Disneyland dad is a dad who basically sees his children 4 days a month.

The time with his children is so limited that he tries to make the most of it by making memories through planned events.

Going to the water park, a shopping spree, an amusement park, Disneyland or whatever.

Every visit by the children is an “event”.

Your time so limited and your desire to have a good time and “make memories”, to see smiles on their faces and make the most of your time so the weekends are filled with as much “fun” activity as you can possible fit in or afford.

2 days go by very quickly and then it is 2 long weeks again until you see them again.

You are not part of their daily routine. You don’t help them get ready in the morning. You don’t help them nightly with their homework, or have dinner with them and discuss their day, you don’t enforce their bedtime or tuck them in at night.

A Disneyland dad misses the important things in life with his children, the every day connection that is so important for maintaining a parent/child relationship.

A Disneyland dad is more like an uncle or grandparents.

We all know how grandparents are always spoiling their grandchildren.

A Disneyland dad does the same.

You don’t see them often and so when you do see them you try to make those days like Disneyland for them.

Hello,

I just wanted to reach out and express that I think that this is a wonderful page and a wonderful cause! My husband is in the U.S Navy and is unfortunately deployed. Before he left on deployment he recorded himself reading bedtime stories for our almost two year old son. Every night we watch one of those videos before bed. This morning my son dragged my laptop over to me yelling “want daddy”. It broke my heart that his daddy can not be with him and it made me think of how many woman, because of their own feelings towards their babies fathers, let their children walk around saying “want daddy” when they have they option to let their children be with their father. I will never understand how some woman can put their feelings before the child’s feelings. No matter what happens in my relationship with my husband I could never never take our son away from him because I would also be taking him away from my son and that would hurt my son just as much as it would hurt his father. We can’t let the children suffer just because mommy doesn’t like daddy anymore. I’m sorry this was so long I just wanted to express my feelings on the issue and I am praying for every father that is missing their babies right now. Never give up!

A good one from Anja again…

How sad is this… Welcome to the UK Family law system….

Now Rugby is brutal for English boys……

Hello little men!

How are my little champs doing today ? I hope great !

Well we got a response from the Court this morning to say they will allow the application for committal to jail of your care giver , although they have still not done their job to issue the updated court order with the notice attached. It’s funny how the court changes their position and rules when they have not done what the Queen pays them for, I think the pictures above is a very good example of the Family Court staff in the UK , but yet they don’t get it when people get frustrated with the level of incompetence they continue to display , and them and Cafcass expects me to just sit back and say “that’s fine” I guess they have not had much dealings with South Africans in general…..

So the C79 court applications has been filed and hard copy posted, the lady from the Court has already confirmed that she has received it , I have told them I do not think 1 day in Court is enough but she has assured me that if they have to stay until 8pm that night so be it ….

I see your blog is almost at 6700 hits today , sorry I have not had much time today to work on it as I have been tied up with the additional application.

I hope you both are having a good fun day , don’t get to bed tooooo late tonight as you have school in the morning I think , please make sure you pack all your stuff tonight so that you are not late in the morning…..

It seems the rain is a little better in Chester so I hope you two muppets have been able to take B&B out for a nice walk or a play in the park.

Ouma has a couple of things for you both , so I will bring it to Court for you both and see if your care giver will take it or leave it behind in Court again like she did last time…..I will take some pictures and post it for you so you can see what it is , should you not be allowed to have it as normal…..

I was outside in the Sun this morning at the car wash , I must say I can’t believe how harsh the Sun is here , guess you forget about UV after being in Dubai as we never seemed to get burn there as South Africans …..

Well pals I hope you both will have a great day at school , say hello to all your little friends from me , lots of giggles and learning I hope …..

I will as always see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land ….brining you both huge warm bear cuddles …..

Night , night little men , happy school day dreams …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you more……

Love you lots , little men!

Dad xx

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