Daily update for my Boys 5 Feb 2014

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Good afternoon little men!

Hope you both are having a very good fun day !

I got the quote from Corrassets for the contact , tried to copy it to post it for you but I need to scan it, it seems , the cost is 2000 pounds for 4 sessions locked in jail for 2 hours plus 190 pounds for the risk assessment, so if you add my flight , car hire and hotel , each two hours will cost around 1500 pounds. I am told Cafcass has to fund part of this as it is their recommendation so I have asked the question, I think I know what the answer will be but I asked. Just got an email from your Solicitor to say Cafcass will not fund , they seem to forget that I have suggest 3 different contact centres of the past 11 months , one even in Chester which have all been ignored and rejected by your care giver…. So what do I do little men? …

All the psychological profiling was completed today, so now we wait for the report and recommendations, going over the file from the start today was interesting to see how your care giver changed her position and allegations from April until Sept , looks like two different cases, all part of the games they are playing I assume…. I had to go look up the old emails etc. to send to the psychologist, he also read your blog today, I think he liked the photo’s of you two monkeys……

Tomorrow I need to sit and get my “work” stuff sorted , the emails are building up from today, guess it will take me most of tomorrow to clear the back log , I have some meetings confirmed in Bloemfontein and Klerksdorp next week also , so lots of time in the car it seems , I have not had a road trip in ages so should be fun seeing the Country again, can’t remember the last time I had the opportunity to do so……

Have no clue what you both have been doing this week , but I hope you have your rain coats as I see parts of the UK are getting very heavy rain and massive flood warnings around the South West…. Hope you are safe…..

Hope you have your stuff sorted for school tomorrow champs , I know you two will have a great day of learning and lots of giggles with your little friends…. O , I hope B&B are doing well and that you both are having lots of happy times with them….

I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land, can’t wait to give you both some warm dry cuddles…..

Night , night little men , warm , dry , happy dreams of Sunny days…..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you more….

Love you boys ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 4 Feb 2014

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Good afternoon little men!

Hope you both are having a fantastic day and doing well….

All I can say is so much for me trying to not work , been a bit of a mad day here setting up meetings for next week , viewings etc, but a fun good day all and all.

I am going to the psychologist tomorrow again, guess we will find out shortly if and how crazy I am , lol…. The Court has just emailed to say they now want us in Court for the full day on 28 Feb instead of the 3 hours that was agreed, but you know what boys the Judge is still not willing it seems to release the details of the evaluation they had done at the airport…as I have said before I smell a rat …. Let’s see how much longer they can try and hide this information…..

I hope you both have seen the nice lady called Babs has written to me again , it seems she can not believe the level of contact your care giver is allowing me with you both , keeping in mind she has never claimed that I have done anything to either of you but yet we are being treated like criminals so she can get her kicks and control the fact that we can only spend time with each other in the jail….. Hope when I do go to jail for fighting to have a normal relationship with you both , you two will come visit me from time to time , O and remember it is a little rude to throw peanuts at people even your Dad when he is behind bars , lol ….. Least we will get to spend longer and more regular times together as I think visiting hours are weekly at jail and not every 3 or 4 months as suggested by the Judge now… See always a silver lining , no matter what…. Guess that is my disturbed personality that always sees the bright side of things,

Ouma and Oupa are sitting here, and says I must send you both all their love , and to tell you they miss you both greatly……

Well champs as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , no monkey business please , lol , can’t wait to give you both a dream cuddle….

Night , night little muppets , happy dreams of more regular contact when I am in jail….

Love you both all the jails in the world full and miss you double that…

Love you boys ….

Dad xx

Your care giver says she does not know how to contact me , strange that , as she had no issue the past 5 years , lol

Hello little men ,

Just to show you how thick your care giver and her spokesperson are , she emailed me on my Birthday 23 Jan and 24 Jan on my hotmail which has been the same since 1999 but now she does not know how to contact me , how strange?

I also see they don’t use the cheap backyard solicitor anymore and the spokesperson is now acting in full for your care giver…..so the true colours will now come out for the world to see…..

More games I guess , and I am told I am the crazy one ??

Love you lots..

Dad xx

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Dear Mrs Ferreira,

Thank you for your email. I acknowledge receipt of your statement which was hand delivered to my office.

I will arrange for it to be scanned in so an electronic copy can be sent to Mr Ferreira, as he will need to have sight of this in advance of the hearing listed on 28th February. I have copied Mrs Hurley in at the Courts to avoid any duplication of work by them.

Kind regards

Becky Butterfield
BSG Solicitors

http://www.bsglaw.co.uk

BSG Solicitors is the trading style of Blackhurst Swainson Goodier LLP which is a
limited liability partnership registered in England and Wales (Registered No. OC350314).

Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx]
Sent: 02 February 2014 20:36
To: anne.hurley@hmcts.gsi.gov.uk; Rebecca Butterfield; Peter – Cafcass Morey
Subject: Statement from Xxxxxxxxxxx

Dear All

I confirm that my response to Mr Ferreira’s appeal to set aside the Final Court Order was hand delivered by my Father, Mr Steve McClure to the Court on Friday, 31st January 2014, at 1.40 p.m., all within the deadline as set out by Judge Singleton.
A copy was also hand delivered to Ms Butterfields Office and a copy left for Mr Peter Morey of Cafcass.

Unfortunately, as Mr Ferreira is now homeless and unemployed as per his recent email, I am not sure of his current contact details and have informed Mrs Hurley that I would not be delivering his copy directly to him.

Kind Regards

Xxxxxxx Ferreira

Domestic Violence: Myth – v – Truth.

A great read on domestic violence….

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The issue of domestic violence in Ireland as in every Western state is not just assumed to be, but universally accepted as violence against women – no questions asked.

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As with all things to do with so called “women’s issues” the ultimate question has to be – who are not just the keepers of the myths, but the authors of the myths?

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Daily update for my Boys 3 Feb2014

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Hello little men!

Hope you both are doing great today ! Start of a new week….

Been a bit of a mad day here to be honest , least the container has been sorted, I guess I need to decide what to do with all your things….. I promise I will try and find a good home for them where little ones will get some fun out of them , still breaks my heart knowing you both will never get to play or use any of it again…..

Boys you would have seen a comment from a nice lady called Barbs, things like that makes me realise that our fight and issues are nothing compared to what other families are dealing with … She makes a valid point in her comment , What have I done ? to be allowed to only see you both four times a year for two hours at a time , the honest answer is nothing , but to fight to try and have a normal relationship with you both and for doing that you both are being kept away from me …….. I some days think if I gave in and allowed your care giver and her spokesperson to bully me and get their way if I would still be a part of your lives , should I have paid the blackmail and just have rolled over and let them continue to lie to get legal aid and housing, try to get me arrested for asking how you both are and what they want to do with her stuff?? Again maybe I am crazy…..as it seems I am the only person in this process that have and can see what these people are trying to do to you both !…….

Don’t get me wrong I know you both might never get to read this or you might be so brainwashed that you do not want to know me …..that is a risk I have no choice but to take at this point as I need you both to know I have and never will stop the fight to have contact with you until the day you both tell me you don’t want that anymore………

Sorry champs I digress,

Just wanted to check that you both are well and say hello , hope you both had a good fun filled day as little men should…….

Still no news from the contact centre so I am sorry to say that it seems that I might not get to see you both at the end of this month as agreed……..but what do I do boys your care giver is playing the game and Cafcass and your solicitor keeps supporting this because I am crazy remember…….

As each night pals I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , can’t wait for my double O cuddles……

Night , night little men…..dream of happy normal days please …..

Love you both truck loads and trailers full and miss you more …

Love you little men, always ……

Dad xx

Sample email to my boys Sept 2013

 Subject: 29 Sept 2013
> From: phillferreira@xxxxxxxxx
> Date: Sun, 29 Sep 2013 15:31:04 +0100
> To: <a href="mailto:.ferreira0511@xxxxxxxxx"ferreira0511@xxxxxxxxx; .ferreira2011@xxxxxxxxx
>
> Hello my little men,
>
> How are you two doing today , I hope better than me ….
>
> Been getting the last bits of the house ready for the movers to pack on Tuesday … Boys I have been so heart broken and emotional today , don’t think I have ever felt like this , I guess it will just get worse this week knowing that I have to leave on Saturday ….. Boys I know I have said it many times before but I am so sorry that I will not be a full time part of your live , but I guess that is what mum always wanted , I don’t know …. Still not sure I am doing the right thing …. I hope I am and that some time and distance will move things forward for us in a positive manner…
>
> I know I have not seen you much because mum did not allow me to but at least I knew where 3 where in the same country and from next week that all will change , I know it means nothing to you both now but it really scares me knowing that you two might not understand it all one day and that you will blame me …… Just know you two are my all and will always be how ever hard that might be for me should you chose to turn your backs on me , I will always be waiting and longing to get to know you both again and be a positive part of your lives if you want me to be , but I will never force it boys no matter how much I would want to be your Dad , that decision will be yours one day when you are ready ….
>
> I know you two will get on with your growing up and Dad will just be a word to you both and I will be just a person you might see some old photos of just please remember that is not how I wanted it to be , but this is not in my hands … Mum is controlling this in a not so good manner but I am sure she has her reasons , I might never understand or know why … Maybe you two will…
>
> Sorry I am so emotional today , just really broken boys , and am not sure if or how I will ever be able to fix myself again , don’t think I ever will , your place in my heart will always bring back this pain and heartache …. My burden to carry for the rest of my life , don’t think I will ever be a whole person again as 2 parts of me are missing and will never be able to be replaced…..
>
> I hope you two will have a fantastic week at school and with all the fun things you might do !
>
> Boys I miss and love you both so , so very much…..
>
> I hope to see you both again tonight under our big old green tree in dream land , hope I can get some double little O dream cuddles and smiles …
>
> Nite , nite , sweet happy little boy dreams …
>
> Love you both with all my heart and sole ….
>
> Love you Champs …
>
> Dad xx
>

Sample email to my boys Aug 2013

Subject: 16 Sept 2013
> From: phillferreira@xxxxxxxxx
> Date: Mon, 16 Sep 2013 20:14:59 +0100
> To: ferreira0511@xxxxxxxx; .ferreira2011@xxxxxxxxx
>
> Hello little men
>
> How are you two doing ? I hope well…
>
> Just got home from work , been a long day to be honest but at least all my stuff for the Board meeting on Wednesday in London are now all done !
>
> Still really cold here , I have the heating on again , lol
>
> So I wonder what you two where doing today ? I hope you two had loads of fun
>
> Your gift where sent by Amazon today so I guess you will get them the end of the week , I really hope you two monkeys will like them … Sorry I can’t see your little faces when you open the box.
>
> Spoke to Ouma and Oupa today they both send all their love , they so want to say hello to you both but Mum is not allowing it I am afraid… Maybe one day …
>
> O I have to do a lot of work for the Court again this weekend as I need to give a letter to explain how I will care for you if you might come and stay with me …. Not sure the Court will allow that but I have to keep fighting boys as long as I am alive as you both are my world ….
>
> So pals , I will see you both a little later under the big old green tree in dream land , can’t wait for my dream cuddles and smiles…
>
> Nite , nite, sweet dreams my boys !
>
>
> Love you both to the moon and back and miss you more ….
>
> Love you champs
>
> Dad xx
>

Sample email to my Boys in Aug 2013

From: phillferreira@xxxxxxxxx To: .ferreira2011@xxxxxxxxx <a href="mailto:ferreira0511@xxxxxxxxx".ferreira0511@xxxxxxxxx Subject: 1 Aug 2013 Date: Thu, 1 Aug 2013 17:13:28 +0100

Hello Pals ,   How are my boys doing today ? i hope well..   Well boys bad news it seems once again , Mum has not filed her statement to me or the court as required by the court order by 4pm today , don’t know what this means to be honest , i have emailed Cafcass and seems we now have an allocated case worker so i will try and speak to him tomorrow and see what do we do now.   Boys i am so sorry that Mum thinks it is ok to play games with us 3 , not sure how she can keep telling her self this is the best for you two , boys i am so sorry that i can not do more to try and resolve this to be honest … break my heart …   I guess they will come with some story again and as normal nothing will be done and i just have to take it boys , i can not believe some days how strange the legal system is here.   Enough about my issues boys , sorry ,   So what have you two monkeys been doing today , i hope you had loads of fun and games in the Sun , and least gave mum 5 min to take a break also ….   I guess you might have received your gifts today , hope you two have lots of fun with them in the bath , guess i will never have the opportunity to have some wet and splashy bath time fun with you two …. makes me so sad boys that i am missing you both grow and not be a part of your lives.   Sorry am at the office and dont want to burst into tears here ,   So as always champs i will see you both a little later under the big old green tree in dream land , wait for me , i want a triple double baby cuddle tonight , think i need it big time …       Nite nite my boys , i miss and love you both so very much ….   Dad xx    

Sample email to my boys in July 2013

From: phillferreira@xxxxxxxxxx To: .ferreira2011@xxxxxxxx ferreira0511@xxxxxxxxx Subject: 5 July 2013 Date: Fri, 5 Jul 2013 14:14:53 +0100

Hi Boys !   How are you two doing today ? I hope you are having lots of fun in the Sun , it must be 28 here in Horsham today to be honest … proper Summer I think , they say the weekend will be great also , so really hope you two are having it good in Chester also…   Well boys our house in Horam came to an end today , I have just claimed the deposit back so I guess that is the end of some very happy memories for us all as a family … guess us 3 now have to start making some new memories once we get to spend  some time together , makes me really sad just thinking about this all , but i guess it is live and we 3 have to get on with it and be strong…   Still no contact from the Police again , so really unsure what is going on behind the seen , i guess as people keep telling me if this was serious the Police would have been back in contact and tried to enforce whatever they wanted to do , so i guess it is the waiting game again.   Well Mums solicitor has now not responded for over 10 days to anything, so am really not sure what game they are trying to play.. I hope I am wrong but my gut is telling me that they are not going to show up next week when we have to go to Court , i need to try and find out where I stand if this is the case …. this might mean even more time before I can see you both and i guess also more issues with my visa , boys all these questions are driving me mad to be honest….     Well boys lets put that all aside for know as it is speculation and we will only next week I guess…   I so wonder each day what you two are doing , I find myself sitting at my desk just looking at picture of you both from School last year … you two are my life ! and i so hope you know that !   Well boys i hope you two will have  a great weekend full of fun and play time , as little men should , maybe so fun in a pool would be nice ….   So as always, i will see you two monkeys a little later tonight under the big old green tree in dream land , wait for me as i want to hear all about your day and weekend plans , also dont you two forget my dream cuddle ….   Sweet happy place dreams Champs , nite nite   Love you both to the Moon and back many many time   Love you pals ,   Dad xx