Hello little men!

How are my little champs doing today ? I hope great !

Well we got a response from the Court this morning to say they will allow the application for committal to jail of your care giver , although they have still not done their job to issue the updated court order with the notice attached. It’s funny how the court changes their position and rules when they have not done what the Queen pays them for, I think the pictures above is a very good example of the Family Court staff in the UK , but yet they don’t get it when people get frustrated with the level of incompetence they continue to display , and them and Cafcass expects me to just sit back and say “that’s fine” I guess they have not had much dealings with South Africans in general…..

So the C79 court applications has been filed and hard copy posted, the lady from the Court has already confirmed that she has received it , I have told them I do not think 1 day in Court is enough but she has assured me that if they have to stay until 8pm that night so be it ….

I see your blog is almost at 6700 hits today , sorry I have not had much time today to work on it as I have been tied up with the additional application.

I hope you both are having a good fun day , don’t get to bed tooooo late tonight as you have school in the morning I think , please make sure you pack all your stuff tonight so that you are not late in the morning…..

It seems the rain is a little better in Chester so I hope you two muppets have been able to take B&B out for a nice walk or a play in the park.

Ouma has a couple of things for you both , so I will bring it to Court for you both and see if your care giver will take it or leave it behind in Court again like she did last time…..I will take some pictures and post it for you so you can see what it is , should you not be allowed to have it as normal…..

I was outside in the Sun this morning at the car wash , I must say I can’t believe how harsh the Sun is here , guess you forget about UV after being in Dubai as we never seemed to get burn there as South Africans …..

Well pals I hope you both will have a great day at school , say hello to all your little friends from me , lots of giggles and learning I hope …..

I will as always see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land ….brining you both huge warm bear cuddles …..

Night , night little men , happy school day dreams …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you more……

Love you lots , little men!

Dad xx

Please take the time sign this petition….

An Open Letter:

My name is David and I am one of the administrators of this page. In the few months I have been with this page, I have seen the good and the bad from supporters and haters. I joined this page because I believe in equal parenting rights. The page is titled “the Fathers’ Rights Movement” but it is really about parenting rights. Similar to how the Civil Rights movement was about rights for all minorities, The Fathers’ Rights Movement t is about Fathers, Mothers, Step Parents, Grandmothers, Grandfathers, and other family members who are being denied access to their family members through Family Courts.
A lot of the people who come to this page are men who have been victims of not only Family Courts, but DV, and other forms of abuse by their former partner. However, there are people from both sexes that come here for the same reasons. We in no way, shape or form advocate DV, Rape, and kidnapping, or any kind of physical, mental, or emotional abuse. What we have are people who come here at the end of their ropes from a system designed to cause strife, anger, hate, depression, poverty, suicide, and other things. This system does not care about the child (for the most part); it’s cares about its wallet. The divorce/child custody industry is a $50 BILLION dollar a year industry; yes $50 BILLION… to put that in perspective; the Oil industry makes about $88 Billion a year; worldwide!
If a parent, mother or father, is denying their child access to the other parent, it is a form of child abuse that can lead to Parental Alienation Syndrome. It is brought on by Hostile-Aggressive Parenting techniques. These techniques include:
* Alienating the child from the other parent
* Not involving the other parent in life affecting decisions of the child.
* Limiting contact between the other parent and the child and/or supervising visitations and communications with the child without a court order.
* Creating a hostile environment during visitation and/or trying to control how the other parent spends their time with the child.
* Using threats or enticements to persuade a child to say or write hurtful things to the other parent.
* Making degrading or diminutive comments about the other parent to the children or in front of the child.
* Making false accusations about the other parent.
* Threatening the child or otherwise persuading the child to alleged false accusations.
* Actively trying to denigrate the role of the other parent in the life of the child.
If you are the custodial parent, try putting yourself in the non-custodial parent’s shoes. Try having your child taken from you, limiting their contact, cutting them out of life decisions, etc. You would probably be feeling the same way a lot of these other men AND women on this page feel: anger, hatred, depression, and even thoughts of suicide. How many of you have said at some point of your time with your child that if anyone every hurt your child you would kill them? Now think about that very carefully; because your former partner probably said the same thing. And no I am not advocating that, I am making a point.
It is time for parents to take back their rights to THEIR children. Take it away from the courts, lawyers, GAL’s, social workers, DCF, DCSE,etc. We made a child(ren), WE raised them; WE were good parents before the split and WE must still be good parents afterwards. If you truly care about your child(ren), you would do what is in their best interest, not yours. Now I also want to make this perfectly clear; if there is any kind of abuse involved, a parent needs to still be involved, but under certain conditions. Even if a child was abused, that child needs to be able to come to terms with it through therapy and eventually facing that abuser. And the abuser also needs the same thing. People can and do change.
The main idea is to raise the child to be the best they can. I can cite hundreds of statistics about the effects on children through divorce, PAS, HAP, etc. But, if we make every effort to have the parents involved, we can negate that and not raise a generation of children who have emotional and mental issues. In order to make change happen we need to work together, reform Family Courts, limit their power to run our families, and yes Reform VAWA (it’s sexist).
Please discuss this; make suggestions, voice your opinion. Without conversation; meaningful conversation, nothing will change. So for all the haters that want conflict—- think about the child(ren), and let’s stop fighting each other, and fight the system that creates this conflict.

A very good article about Mums and boys ….

Hello little men!

Hope you both are oki doki and doing really well today…..

Can’t believe how well I slept last night , lol , I only woke up at like 7 30 this morning, very unlike me but I guess my body needed it….funny point , I am the same weight this week as what I was at the age of 16……

Read this article about the UK education system this morning boys , it scares me a little as I have seen personally how behind the children are , they have no clue about what is going on in the world..and I must say when I went to school we were pushed to perform and have a very wide general knowledge on most subjects but that does not seem the case now were you both are being kept hostage and forced to spend time with people that them self have not completed formal education… But again Cafcass and the Court seems to think this is the right thing for you both to be stuck in this horrible environment being subjected to all kinds of mental abuse daily….

I got some much stick from your care giver and her family for wanting you both to go to play school from the age of 8 months, yet after the separation they took you out of school for months with no concern about the fun and development you both had, had at school for a year…. Now I am told you both are in a school again since end of July last year, I am told this is privately funded but as far as I know you only go for the 15 hours a week the UK government pays for as your care giver , I believe is still not even trying to find a job to make your lives better ! So not sure how people can think this attitude is not child abuse?

It’s been a really nice day here again , bright blue sky’s , lots of sunshine , not very hot but good…. You both would have loved playing outside on a day like today….

The project I have been looking at here seems to be almost all done , am really pleased with all the progress made here the past 3 months, might take 3 or so months more before all falls into place but that’s ok , it leaves me with the time I need to try and improve our three’s current situation….lots of work needs to be done on that front it seems….

Well little men , just wanted to say a quick hello , find out how you both are doing and to tell you both that I miss and love you both lots and lots…..

I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land, can’t wait for my double O cuddles….

Night , night little champs….happy dreams……

Love you both big boats full and miss you much more…..

Love you little men…

Dad xx

Worth a read boys, with a care giver that refuses to work at all and think it is great to get 1400 pound a month from the state while she keeps you hostage in the UK what will become of your education as these people all left school at 16 ! Makes me really sad and concerned !