Author Archives: Phill Ferreira
Crossing the toxic sea, in a sail boat made of sand.
This week I have been thinking about the way in which children at risk of alienation make transitions to and from their parents. I have been thinking about how, when parents separate, their first psycholgocial reaction is to retreat back to their family of origin how this, if it is an unhealthy environment, becomes the crucible for developing an alienation reaction.
For our family of origin, our tribe, our primitive sense of identity and belonging, is the place where we learn to be who we are. Who we are, in relationship to others, is driven by the messages and the teachings we received in the bosom of our family, however that was constructed around us.
When we enter into a relationship with another, our task, after the biological business of falling in love and bonding is done, is to find a way to weave together the two sides of our…
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The long awaited Court directions and new Orders , Little Men :-)
Stay-at-home mothers facing child custody battles without legal representation – Telegraph
Daily update for my Boys 25 June 2014
Hello Little Men !
How are you two monkeys doing this evening ? I hope that you are well and safe …….
I had to giggle now , I just had dinner at the Italian restaurant here in the hotel and thus far the past 2 months I have had pizza from them when ever I stopped in , so tonight I decided to live on the wild side and as such I ordered macaroni and cheese , now don’t get me wrong , I know in South Africa we make it with egg and bacon and white sauce , you in the UK again just do plain pasta with white sauce which I personally don’t like , so when I got my meal it looked the part as it was oven baked with loads if nice brown crispy cheese on top …..first bite in and what do I find ? Chicken , corn and pineapple …. So I must say that it was a first for me ! Keep in mind the menu just says macaroni and cheese , no mention of the add in , lol …but hey I was starving so it was not that bad , might even try it again one day 🙂
Over and above my culinary diverse experience a pretty normal day , got lots done at work but had to come to town early as I had to go to the local bank to arrange some swift TT’s , not as painful as what I expected , the traffic back to the hotel , a nightmare ! …. Sounds like a master card add gone wrong , lol
I spoke to Ouma this morning , she seems to not be doing well , not sure what is going on but she did not sound well , and you will never really know the whole story with her when it comes to not being well , but I have told her to go to the Dr , so she tells me yes she is , on 4 Aug ! So I told her that’s just silly she can’t wait for her next follow up at cardiology , she needs to ring them and say something is up , she In turn then tells me very proudly that she has stopped her medication ! Lol , what to do , I some days don’t know who is worse her or Oupa when it comes to going to the Dr. , they both send all their love and big cyber cuddles your way !
I must say I am pretty ready to go home now and enjoy some nice cool weather 🙂 if only for a couple of days ….
So Champs , I hope you both are having a fun week thus far with lots of giggles and plenty of learning ….and that you are safe !
Can’t wait to see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , looking forward to some dream icy bear cuddles ……
Night , night Little Men ….sweet dreams of happy days 🙂
Love you both around the world and back and miss you both tttthhhhiiiiiisssss much !
Love you , Champs ….always …
Dad xx
22 Photos that prove Kids need to have a pet!
Can not agree more 🙂
22 Photos that prove Kids need to have a pet!
If only I could convince my household that we could have a dog, although Im fully aware that the reason we cant is completely logical. I know that, even though we share Tasco while we are on holiday, Daniel would love to have a puppy.
Talking about Narcissists… and Woundology
When I first started blogging about my experience of Narcissists, I was hesitant in what I said. There were many reasons for my hesitancy, all of which were part of my personal wound. The major one being that I had spent so long trapped in silence that I wasn’t sure if I could speak out about it, I was doubtful that I had the voice, the words, to express myself.
In the past when I had tried to discuss these things I was shoved back into myself, told to shut up in one form or another by the world outside of me.
Sometimes those who wanted to silence me were Narcissists. Sometimes they were those who were not Narcissists but they were supporters of the Narcissists, fooled by them as I had once been fooled, buying into the neat and palatable reality which Narcissists know how to weave for their…
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Have to share these with you Champs as they made me smile big time :-)
Twee vroue en ‘n boodskap
Verlede jaar September tref ‘n orkaan my. Vir vyf maande woed dit voort, en toe ek nie meer ‘n krieseltjie hoop, of krag oor het nie, is hy uitgewoed en kom daar kalmte. Maar soos die dokter sê jou liggaam is soos ‘n boom, as hy groot stres gevang het gooi hy sy blare af, en my liggaam begin toe my hare afgooi, en hou nie op nie, en dit veroorsaak natuurlik meer stres. Lang storie kort, ek bly moeg, en huil oor alles… en my hare bly uitval.
Gisteraand bel Ken. Ongelukkig is dit op ‘n baie lae oomblik, en ek grens soos ‘n baba. Vanoggend ontvang ek ‘n baie simpatieke boodskap van hom af, en net toe ek wou antwoord sien ek daar is ‘n Fb boodskap vir my. Ek maak gou oop en lees dit. Dit is van Ronêl, ‘n “vriendin” uit ons vroeër jare daar tussen…
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The Story of my Twin Boys Oliver and Oscar Ferreira 
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