Daily update for my boys 21 April 2014

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Good Afternoon Little Men !

I hope you muppets are doing great and have had a fantastic weekend ! sorry I did not not write you both last night but I did not take my iPad to the Dam…

I had a lovely weekend with the Jenkings 5 , it’s started yesterday morning with a proper Easter egg hunt around the day …the little ones had great fun, I think you two would have loved it also ….. We spent the rest of the day playing with the jet-ski and surf boards , I think I have around a billion new scars and marks on my legs playing with the little ones …

Oom Q tried to be clever today and dunk me from the jet-ski but I took him down with me , I do think I drank around half of the dams water but it still was well worth it.

Liam decided yesterday that I was his nominated neck piggy-backer He found it very amusing for me to run under the big willow trees with him on my neck so he could try and swing on the branches …..

Last night he came to sit with me on the Sun bed chairs and decided to feed me some of his Easter chocolate stash…. Before bath time he went inside and when his daddy found him he was mopping the shower , I told you monkeys before he loves cleaning …but last night he decided to dunk the mop in the toilet to clean the shower … It was very funny …..

I was outside at bed time but he came to get me to sit with him and watch Micky mouse clubhouse and have yet more chocolate …… He is Spider-Man mad …all his bedding and blankets etc. is all Spider-Man , made me think lots if you two are also into that now ….

Just emailed little Mr Marx mum also now as he is 3 today , they went to the big zoo in the city for a fun day , hope to see him next week for a huge birthday cuddle and some play time…..

I think I am going to be in bed by 6pm tonight as Liam told me last night , as no matter what time it is , he told me when they go to bed it’s 6pm , he tells me he thinks it’s a little early but his mummy is not willing to negotiate on this …what made me smile is the fact that it was around 8 last night when he told me it’s 6 and he needs to go to bed now ….lol

I really hope you monkeys have had as nice a weekend as what I did …sorry again that I did not get to see you or say hello but that is how some people want things now …. O I hear the house in Carnforth has been sold at last …sure you two will miss playing with the fishpond ….. And saying hello to the cows in the back field ……

Well champs I just want to wish you both a fun week full of lots of learning and giggles …. Please give B&B a cuddle from me also , and remember to share some of your Easter stash with them ….lol

Missed you both so much this weekend , can’t even put it into words … Can’t wait to see you two shortly under our big old green tree in dream land …packing big bear dream cuddles and smiles for you both …..

Night , night Champs …..big dreams of better days …..

Love you both big trucks and trailers full and miss you much , much more …

Love you Little Men….always ….

Dad xx

Daily update for my Boys 19 April 2014

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Hello Little Men!

How are you both doing today ? I hope oki doki ….

It’s been a really nice day here for a change bright and sunny and best of all dry as winter days should be here …..

I just realised tomorrow it will be one year since I started writing to you daily , as I am sure you know until 6 Dec 2013 I have been writing to your gmail accounts I have created , oliver.ferreira2011@gmail.com and oscar.ferreira0511@gmail.com , I have just been doing some house keeping on your accounts as there is lots and lots of email for you to read one day if you like …all these wordpress blog posts are also going to you inboxes , the YouTube account I use for video is under Oliver’s account so that account seems to be getting email from other people and sites also so had to clean up the spam….I have marked all the mail as read so it’s nice and neat now again. When you both are ready there is a number of people in your close circle that have the passwords for these accounts so all you have to do is ask around a little as not all the people you have contact with agrees with what is being done to you both…..

I had to smile this morning when I got a Facebook friend request from a lady I had no clue who she was , only when I looked at the page I realised it is one of the ladies that follow your blog but had to go undercover to not cause issues ….the things that people will do….I guess we all have our reasons for doing stuff ……but it was lovely saying hello to her as she had disappeared for a while …….

I am off to the Dam first thing in the morning for a couple of days with the Jenkings 5 , really looking forward to seeing them all again and spending a couple of fun day clowning around with the twins and their big sister ….makes me smile just thinking about it , I guess they remind me so much of you both it’s scary , I believe L is having a great time with your train town things , as his Ouma told me it’s a proper boys toy…and I must say I agree with that one ….. When I have been out getting things for them you find loads of cool stuff for the girls but the choice of ‘cool’ stuff for little men of 3 seems limited …or maybe I have lost touch a little the past 13 months of what little Champs are into at this age …sure the next couple of days will put me back on track with ideas for your birthday gifts , yes , yes I know you will not get to have them but that still does not stop me from buying them and storing them in your room for one day ….maybe ….or even your little ones might get the things one day …might be collectables by then …lol..

Well Champs I hope your weekend is going well , full of fun and furry giggles …

I don’t think I will be able to write you both tomorrow night , but just know I will be thinking of you as always , and I shall see you tonight and tomorrow night in our normal place under our big old green tree in dream land …..I will pack some wet , muddy Dam cuddles for you both , pretty sure you both would love that …. 🙂

Night , night muppets …..happy dreams of better safer days ….soon ….

Love you both around the Dam a billion times and miss you much more …..

Love you a Little Men ….always …..

Dad xx

Its not always alienation (and why its important to understand that)

Hi Karen , thank you once again for a great article , lots to think about indeed but if the alienator is not allowing you to see your little ones or work on things I belief honestly the hybrid model you mention does in fact become full blown alienation , maybe that is how I feel personally as I have only been allowed to see our boys for less than 10 hours in 13 months , tomorrow a month they will be 3 , I know by now they don’t even know who I am anymore and I think that also makes my views on PAS so strong. Breaks my heart but it’s all about control for the other parent and her family !

Hope you are having a good weekend 🙂

Kind Regards,

Phill Ferreira

karenwoodall's avatarKaren Woodall - Psychotherapist, Writer, Researcher, Trainer

Recently I have read a few good news stories of mums and dads being reunited with their children after periods of time in which their children have been withdrawn from them and refusing to see them.  In each of these stories I have read about how those children have been alienated and how reuniting in this way is a story of overcoming the poisonous acts of the other parent/the family courts/other people who have caused children to be alienated.  I have no doubt that in some of these cases, some or all of those factors have been at play, but reading these stories, I cannot help but feel vaguely anxious about the way in which the term parental alienation is so freely and easily used as the reason why children enter into periods of withdrawal from a parent after separation.

Parental alienation in my experience is a rare phenomenon and…

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FAQ Friday – 5 Common Questions About the Common Narcissist

A great article once again Kim 🙂

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1)       When Does the Narcissist go No Contact?

The Narcissist doesn’t go No Contact.  They either implement the Silent Treatment or discard you.

When the Narcissist starts ignoring you, blocking you, and leaving for a couple of weeks at the time (or more), it’s his/her way of forcing you to comply and accept abusive behavior patterns.  For instance, it usually happens when you point out unfairness, confront them about cheating, or express your displeasure at something they’ve said or done.  The Silent treatment is a manipulative tool the Narcissist uses when the relationship is ongoing.  Further, they are usually grooming new supply during this time.

If the Narcissist has found a new source of supply, they will discard you, but oftentimes, it isn’t a final discard.  At this point, they might admit they’ve found someone new, or simply leave without explanation and may begin to block you from contacting…

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Daily update for my Boys 18 April 2014

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Good evening Little Men!

Hope you muppets are having a Good Friday on this Good Friday !

I am sure you both would have had your fair share of chocolate today …as a post I read on Facebook today , chocolate comes from coco which comes from the Coco tree so that makes chocolate a fruit …thus it can not be bad for you ….lol 🙂

It’s really cold here today , my feet are frozen again , I have not left for the weekend yet as I ended up being tied up with work stuff most of the day …the joys of working with markets that do not celebrate Easter …..

The Jenkings 5 had what’s upped already to check where I am , so have told them I will spend Sunday day and stay over with them…so I am looking forward doing the bedtime story for the twins and their big sister ….. I need to see what book to take with that might make the most compelling little people fairy-tail….maybe I should just play it from the hip and tell them about when us three went to the farm near the house after work to feed the goats and ducks or maybe the chasing game we use to play at the soft play place on Sunday mornings …makes me smile thinking about that and how you Oliver had no fear and was ready to go down any thing and you Oscar were happy playing on the ground floor with your blanket …I wonder if you still take the blanket with you when you go out and how Oliver and I use to play with you and say to you ‘my blanket’ and how well you stood your ground to tell Oliver and I No ‘ my blanket ‘ lol

I hope you both have had a great start to your Easter weekend also and that you are doing lots of fun things…..

O before I forget did you monkeys leave some carrots and lettuce out for the Easter Bunny ? I do hope so , I am sure he would have enjoyed it very much , it’s a good thing B&B does not eat stuff like that or the bunny might have had to eat some of your chocolate ….lol

Well Champs 3 more days of relaxing ahead … Please be safe and have lots of giggles and plenty of play time ……

As always I can’t wait to see you both later in our normal place under our big old green tree in dreamland …..big bear furry bunny dream cuddles and smiles tonight please …..

Night , night Little Men ….dream big …remember not even the sky is the limit if you dream it …..

Love you both around the world and back ….and miss you a billion times more ….

Love you Little Men …..always ….

Dad xx