Good afternoon little men!
Hope you both are having a fantastic day and doing well….
All I can say is so much for me trying to not work , been a bit of a mad day here setting up meetings for next week , viewings etc, but a fun good day all and all.
I am going to the psychologist tomorrow again, guess we will find out shortly if and how crazy I am , lol…. The Court has just emailed to say they now want us in Court for the full day on 28 Feb instead of the 3 hours that was agreed, but you know what boys the Judge is still not willing it seems to release the details of the evaluation they had done at the airport…as I have said before I smell a rat …. Let’s see how much longer they can try and hide this information…..
I hope you both have seen the nice lady called Babs has written to me again , it seems she can not believe the level of contact your care giver is allowing me with you both , keeping in mind she has never claimed that I have done anything to either of you but yet we are being treated like criminals so she can get her kicks and control the fact that we can only spend time with each other in the jail….. Hope when I do go to jail for fighting to have a normal relationship with you both , you two will come visit me from time to time , O and remember it is a little rude to throw peanuts at people even your Dad when he is behind bars , lol ….. Least we will get to spend longer and more regular times together as I think visiting hours are weekly at jail and not every 3 or 4 months as suggested by the Judge now… See always a silver lining , no matter what…. Guess that is my disturbed personality that always sees the bright side of things,
Ouma and Oupa are sitting here, and says I must send you both all their love , and to tell you they miss you both greatly……
Well champs as always I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land , no monkey business please , lol , can’t wait to give you both a dream cuddle….
Night , night little muppets , happy dreams of more regular contact when I am in jail….
Love you both all the jails in the world full and miss you double that…
Love you boys ….
Dad xx
The Story of my Twin Boys Oliver and Oscar Ferreira 
Dear Phil
I am so sorry to read your blog. I haven’t been following it all the time, just recently, after my brother Abe told me about it. I read the comments Emma put on and have to agree with what she said. You then called your wife a ‘potty mouth’ and then used and upheld an example of another woman’s page who it would appear sympathised with you and against Emma, but her language was absolutely appalling. If I could just say I went through a marriage break down but my children were older than your boys. I constantly blamed my wife for not letting me see them and called my wife names just as you are doing with your wife or ex wife. As a result my children who are now grown with children of their own will have absolutely nothing to do with me. I know this is their own choice as a result of me constantly bad mouthing their mother, who I might add has done a wonderful job of raising them, and supporting them through university. I have really missed out because of my own bloody mindedness and aggressive behaviour. But it’s far too late for me now even though I live in the same country as them. I also see comments made by a lady called Barbara, and feel sorry that she was being physically attacked by her ex husband. What a shame! although there are more forms of abuse than just physical, which leave no scars, mental abuse is just as harmful. I also note in your reply to this nice sympathetic lady Barbara, that you admit to assaulting your mother in law. Is this something that is acceptable in African culture? I was brought up in an abusive family and from my experience a man should never lay hands on a woman because in my eyes it makes him far less of a man. Even if this lady was swearing at you it would appear that you were the only one to get physical. Shame on you. I hope you realise what you are doing before it’s too late, as it is for me. A judge in court once told me that you are the one who has burned your bridges and it is up to your children if they will ever let you rebuild them. It’s too late for me but maybe not for you. If you provided so much for your wife and children and were so nice to them, why should she want to leave? and why are you only allowed to see them under supervision? or as you say ‘in prison’ . This really doesn’t seem fair. . I hope you sort things out, as I wish I had done many years ago. But it has gone too far past that point for me. And it looks as if it’s getting that way for you.
Good Luck with Love in God x
Ray Soul
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Hi Ray,
Thank you for taking the time to read my boys blog , and thank you for your advice , I am very much aware of the risk in this case as it has been going on for a long time.
You also need to keep in mind I walked out not my ex as I was not willing to endure the verbal abuse , mental abuse and control her and her family was forcing onto me , but in normal UK police standards this was turned around on me as the problem.
The reason I can only see our boys in jail is due to the fact that the care giver wants this as she told police and the Courts me and my family are in the mafia and her life is at risk.
Like I said to Emma , the care giver lost the “mother” title in my eyes during Dec due to her and her families behaviour over the festive season and her choice to ignore the Court order!
As I have said before I will fight until the day my boys tell me they do not want to know me , thus the blog as they will never know the truth if I am not allowed to spend normal time with them.
The Court order says four times a year contact , no time limit , the care giver has decided two hours but yet the boys are going to nursery from the age of eight months full day , and thus she is happy to leave them for full days but now she says they can not be away from her for more than 2 hours as it is stressful for them, so when she goes out drinking during the day they can stay at school alone , no issue but as long as it is not with me , very logical and fair ,and the sad thing is Cafcass and the Court agrees and have infact recommended this!
Thank you again for your comment.
Kind Regards,
Phill Ferreira
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Hi there Phil
I stumbled upon your blog on a friend on facebooks page. I must say, I cannot begin to try and understand how upsetting this whole ordeal must be, but I have to agree with Ray. I can see from your blog that you are South Africa and most of the South Africans I have met are Christian. IF you are a Christian, then wouldn’t if be better to follow the example of Him. He was accused by many and remained strong, He did not turn around and call people names, He took what was coming to Him and even asked God to forgive those who were plotting to kill Him. As a Christian you will come under the attack of the world from many sides. It is our choice on how we are going to deal with it. Name calling, bad mouthing children’s mother is not going to help. It doesn’t matter if she does it to you or what else she does to you, God expects of you to turn the other cheek and to love your enemies.This is the hardest thing I had to realize when I was brutally raped and abducted by two men. I had to forgive them, for hate creates a hole in your stomach. Revenge is mine says the Lord, not yours. He will deal with the situation, if you give it over to Him. Do not let this blog be the cause of the courts taking even more action against you. What you write down is forever. What you write down your sons will read later and may even one day hold it against you. Love is an amazing thing, it is the thing we use to fight enemies. The Bible says it is like heaping hot coals on your enemies head. It puts out fires. Do not fuel this fight with fire, fight it with the love of God.
All my love and blessings
Katie
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Hi Katie,
Firstly I am really sorry to read about your ordeal! Good on you for being able to put it behind you and rebuild your life as I am sure that must have been the hardest thing you have done in your life.. Hats off to you young lady!
Secondly , thank you very much for taking the time to read and comment on my boys blog , as I have said a while back I will always take all comments and opions on board and as such once again thank you for your heartfelt and what must have been emotional to write comment.
I am all for turning the other cheek, but also believe from the same Good book it says an eye for an eye , now you might not agree with that and that’s ok, because as people we all handle things in our lives in the way we belief best at that stage….
I write this blog for that very reason as our boys are at risk daily but yet the family courts don’t see it, and you know who will get the blame one day if things go wrong, me! ,although I am not allowed to protect and safeguard our little men against this abuse!
Will our boys hate my guts one day for fighting to be a normal part of their lives , very possible, but at least I will know that they know that I have and never will give up the fight for them and I hope the lesson if nothing else they take from this is to stand up for what you believe in and what is wrong.
People will always critise the choices other people make , and I am ok with that ,as if all the people in the world were to be the same in thinking, the world will be a very sad and lonely place!
Call me crazy , disturbed etc. the list goes on and on but, this is my opinion , it might be wrong, it might be right , as the saying goes , each family law case has 3 sides to the story…always….
Thanking you very much again for your kind words and thoughts!
All the best in your personal journey also ….always
Stand strong , and smile , I believe it makes the world a better place ,
Take Care
Phill xx
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Matthew 5:38-48
Eye for Eye
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[a] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
Love for Enemies
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[b] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect
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Hi Katie,
Thank you again for your comment and quote , as I said earlier I am not saying I am right or wrong, but I am living this day in and out, we all make choices , and I was taught we all are responsible for our own actions and choices , thus I am firm in my stance on this matter, and the consequences.
I am not going to get into a religious debate with you , this is not in my nature as I believe all people have some form of religion not based on the Bible persay…but it still forms the basis of their behaviour and mind set ! Nature and Human nature are pure examples of this….
Animals protect their young , do they not ? No matter the consequences to their own well being …
Thank you again for your insight… I do take it to heart …..
Take Care
Phill
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