Good afternoon little men!
I hope you both are doing great…..
We had a little bit of excitement today, Ouma and I went out early this morning and en route back the road was blocked and people were burning tyres and stuff in the road and protesting, not sure what it was about but we had to take a detour to get back home , just a normal day in Africa I guess..
Oupa has gone with his bike to the dam for the day with friends as it is such a nice day here today , he’s not done it for a while , so I assume he is felling better thus the outing…..
Not sure what you both have been doing today , I see you have had some heavy snow in parts the last couple of days so I really hope it is ok were you both are being kept hostage, I hope you both are warm and safe…..
Been procrastinating today with my admin stuff so will have to tackle that at some point later this afternoon, had some emails but still huge amounts of gaps in the information I have been given thus far…. These things take time and lots of it…..what to do ? , as they say….
I have not booked flights or hotel for the end of the month yet as I have still not heard from the contact centre and it seems your care giver has ignored the Court order again as no information has been served yet as per the time set out in the court order , am I surprised ? No , as in the last year your care giver has continued to cause delays and ignore the courts but it seems this is all ok , the fact that two little boys are suffering major abuse daily due to this control freak seems totally acceptable by the Uk courts and your solicitor…. So what I am trying to say champs is that I get the feeling as normal your care giver is trying to block the contact or at least leave it until it is to late for me to agree and then she and her spokesperson can tell the world again that I do not want to play by their rules to see you both…nice ” mother” then people ask me why she does not deserve to be called that ever! All my fault as normal I am sure….
So little muppets I wish you both a fun filled week next week , hope you have lots of nice things to see and do…… Hope little B&B are also doing well… Must be fun taking them for a walk if you have snow , sure they will find it very exciting……hope you have coats for them both if they go outside with you ….
I will see you both later tonight under our big old green tree in dream land , don’t be late , can’t wait to give you both a double dream cuddle……
Night , night pals , happy warm place dreams …..
Love you both more than TTTHHHHiiiiiiiiiiiSSSssssssssssss much and miss you both double that !
Love you little O’s
Dad xx


Dear Phill,
Good to see you have researched some definitions – I wonder if they made you think about your own situation and role in your boys’ lives?
I found your ‘what is a father ‘ interesting as in one post you make reference to a father merely being the ‘biological ‘ part and ‘dad ‘being more important . Why is it therefore that you cannot utilise ‘mummy’ as this would be the name your boys use if you find ‘mother ‘ so abhorrent?
Indeed by your own posting you affirm that definitions are indeed different to each individual and that there is no right or wrong definition .
Please remember that it will be your boys and your boys only who decide how each of you have fulfilled your roles and only they will decide if you are mummy/daddy , mother/father and if you have done a good job or if indeed they choose to have no relationship with you . How they do this will be shaped by what you each do and say. If you constantly refer to the other with such hatred do you really think this will reflect well on you ?
I don’t know if you are a spiritual man , but you would perhaps do well to look to some religions where women who nurture and care for children are thought of very differently to your views .
Regards
Emma
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Hi Emma ,
Hope you are well.
I have posted some sample emails for you to see the care giver did not lose the “mum” title from the start but was infact caused by her behaviour over the past year and her choice to practice parental alienation.
Happy to give you the password of one of the boys email accounts if you want to read the story from the start
Have a great week !
Speak soon
Phill
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