An Open Letter:

My name is David and I am one of the administrators of this page. In the few months I have been with this page, I have seen the good and the bad from supporters and haters. I joined this page because I believe in equal parenting rights. The page is titled “the Fathers’ Rights Movement” but it is really about parenting rights. Similar to how the Civil Rights movement was about rights for all minorities, The Fathers’ Rights Movement t is about Fathers, Mothers, Step Parents, Grandmothers, Grandfathers, and other family members who are being denied access to their family members through Family Courts.
A lot of the people who come to this page are men who have been victims of not only Family Courts, but DV, and other forms of abuse by their former partner. However, there are people from both sexes that come here for the same reasons. We in no way, shape or form advocate DV, Rape, and kidnapping, or any kind of physical, mental, or emotional abuse. What we have are people who come here at the end of their ropes from a system designed to cause strife, anger, hate, depression, poverty, suicide, and other things. This system does not care about the child (for the most part); it’s cares about its wallet. The divorce/child custody industry is a $50 BILLION dollar a year industry; yes $50 BILLION… to put that in perspective; the Oil industry makes about $88 Billion a year; worldwide!
If a parent, mother or father, is denying their child access to the other parent, it is a form of child abuse that can lead to Parental Alienation Syndrome. It is brought on by Hostile-Aggressive Parenting techniques. These techniques include:
* Alienating the child from the other parent
* Not involving the other parent in life affecting decisions of the child.
* Limiting contact between the other parent and the child and/or supervising visitations and communications with the child without a court order.
* Creating a hostile environment during visitation and/or trying to control how the other parent spends their time with the child.
* Using threats or enticements to persuade a child to say or write hurtful things to the other parent.
* Making degrading or diminutive comments about the other parent to the children or in front of the child.
* Making false accusations about the other parent.
* Threatening the child or otherwise persuading the child to alleged false accusations.
* Actively trying to denigrate the role of the other parent in the life of the child.
If you are the custodial parent, try putting yourself in the non-custodial parent’s shoes. Try having your child taken from you, limiting their contact, cutting them out of life decisions, etc. You would probably be feeling the same way a lot of these other men AND women on this page feel: anger, hatred, depression, and even thoughts of suicide. How many of you have said at some point of your time with your child that if anyone every hurt your child you would kill them? Now think about that very carefully; because your former partner probably said the same thing. And no I am not advocating that, I am making a point.
It is time for parents to take back their rights to THEIR children. Take it away from the courts, lawyers, GAL’s, social workers, DCF, DCSE,etc. We made a child(ren), WE raised them; WE were good parents before the split and WE must still be good parents afterwards. If you truly care about your child(ren), you would do what is in their best interest, not yours. Now I also want to make this perfectly clear; if there is any kind of abuse involved, a parent needs to still be involved, but under certain conditions. Even if a child was abused, that child needs to be able to come to terms with it through therapy and eventually facing that abuser. And the abuser also needs the same thing. People can and do change.
The main idea is to raise the child to be the best they can. I can cite hundreds of statistics about the effects on children through divorce, PAS, HAP, etc. But, if we make every effort to have the parents involved, we can negate that and not raise a generation of children who have emotional and mental issues. In order to make change happen we need to work together, reform Family Courts, limit their power to run our families, and yes Reform VAWA (it’s sexist).
Please discuss this; make suggestions, voice your opinion. Without conversation; meaningful conversation, nothing will change. So for all the haters that want conflict—- think about the child(ren), and let’s stop fighting each other, and fight the system that creates this conflict.

A very good article about Mums and boys ….

Hello little men!

Hope you both are oki doki and doing really well today…..

Can’t believe how well I slept last night , lol , I only woke up at like 7 30 this morning, very unlike me but I guess my body needed it….funny point , I am the same weight this week as what I was at the age of 16……

Read this article about the UK education system this morning boys , it scares me a little as I have seen personally how behind the children are , they have no clue about what is going on in the world..and I must say when I went to school we were pushed to perform and have a very wide general knowledge on most subjects but that does not seem the case now were you both are being kept hostage and forced to spend time with people that them self have not completed formal education… But again Cafcass and the Court seems to think this is the right thing for you both to be stuck in this horrible environment being subjected to all kinds of mental abuse daily….

I got some much stick from your care giver and her family for wanting you both to go to play school from the age of 8 months, yet after the separation they took you out of school for months with no concern about the fun and development you both had, had at school for a year…. Now I am told you both are in a school again since end of July last year, I am told this is privately funded but as far as I know you only go for the 15 hours a week the UK government pays for as your care giver , I believe is still not even trying to find a job to make your lives better ! So not sure how people can think this attitude is not child abuse?

It’s been a really nice day here again , bright blue sky’s , lots of sunshine , not very hot but good…. You both would have loved playing outside on a day like today….

The project I have been looking at here seems to be almost all done , am really pleased with all the progress made here the past 3 months, might take 3 or so months more before all falls into place but that’s ok , it leaves me with the time I need to try and improve our three’s current situation….lots of work needs to be done on that front it seems….

Well little men , just wanted to say a quick hello , find out how you both are doing and to tell you both that I miss and love you both lots and lots…..

I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land, can’t wait for my double O cuddles….

Night , night little champs….happy dreams……

Love you both big boats full and miss you much more…..

Love you little men…

Dad xx

Worth a read boys, with a care giver that refuses to work at all and think it is great to get 1400 pound a month from the state while she keeps you hostage in the UK what will become of your education as these people all left school at 16 ! Makes me really sad and concerned !

Dear President Obama,
I wanted to inform you that under our present laws if Michelle files a restraining order against you and accuses you of domestic violence, which could simply be you throwing your Obamacare files across the room after a long day at the oval office, that you stand to lose a lot of freedoms you purport to protect. First you will be forced to leave the White House. The Secret Service will probably be there to allow you to collect some of your things but not everything that is legally yours. Your beautiful girls will only be allowed to be around you during supervised visits, this will most likely be twice a week at the local YMCA or kids museum. Be sure to save up some money because your visits will cost about $50 an hour. You also will be forced to pay child support without anyone asking if you even threw that damn Obamacare file. You will need to hire a good lawyer to fight the charges against you as well. Most lawyers ask for a $5000 retainer to start, then they will take monthly payments. You also need to turn in your passport. I know this may be tricky as you do so much work overseas but the law is the law Barack. Also, no more shooting clay pigeons at Camp David, you’ll be required to turn in your firearms once you are served with your restraining order.

Be prepared my friend, because on top of your mounting legal bills, supervised visit fees and trying to find a room to rent or a couch to sleep on, the real pain will start to settle in. You will no longer be around your kids who you have worked so hard to protect all these years. You won’t know which boyfriend Michelle has at your old house or who is taking care of your kids. You may wonder if they are happy and healthy or what the report card said but sadly you will be at Michelle’s mercy to either include you or alienate you from their lives. Get some tissues Barack, because about a month after you are forced from the White House you will realize emotional pain hurts far worse than those pesky Republicans bad mouthing your healthcare laws. You will cry, a lot. Be prepared for a long battle Mr. President, as there will be continuations in court, mediation sessions and settlement conferences all before you can even tell your side of the story. I know it probably sounds crazy all this happening to you. You probably feel blindsided by it. You probably thought you actually have rights and most likely you didn’t know all this could happen to you without due process. Perhaps your lawyer friends could head to Philadelphia and reread the Constitution to doublecheck and make sure you’re not missing something. You may want to get your pal Mr. Biden to bring you a copy of the VAWA act as well, this is what got you into this mess to begin with, Barack. Please don’t take it out on Mr. Biden, as you may need to sleep on his couch because the lawyer fees and supervised visits and support payments are astronomically high and you need to pinch pennies. Peanut butter and Ramen noodles are you near Staples of nutrition. No more personal chef, Michelle gets to keep him too.

I’m sorry Mr. Pres., I know it all seems so crazy that in a supposed free country all your rights are stripped away and nobody cares about what really happened or if maybe, just maybe, Michelle was actually abusing you for years but you were too afraid to speak up. We all know men who are victims of abuse have little to no resources, no shelters to go to, no violence against men act, the police don’t believe you and your buddies at work may ridicule you if you tell them that Michelle has been abusing you at the White House while the Secret Service was right outside your door. I am sorry you are in this situation Mr. President, hopefully when the dust settles you can have your kids every other weekend and a week during the summer. I know you did everything to protect them and now barely get to see them. You’ll most likely become a Disney dad now Barack, sorry you can’t do homework with them or wake up with them or be an active participant in their lives. Hopefully you will be one of the lucky ones and Michelle won’t alienate the kids from you, bad mouthing you to her high-class friends an telling the kids what a loser you are. Welcome to our club Barack, though its not a club anyone wants to be a part of or could have imagined even existed in their wildest dreams. My best advice to you is stand up for your rights, maybe talk to Biden about fixing his biased VAWA act. Tell the girls you love them as much as you can. Maybe someday they will know you always wanted to be in their lives but an unjust and corrupt system kept you from them.

Sincerely,

Joseph Makem

Hello little men!

How are my champs doing on this lovely sunny Monday….? I hope very well and that you two are having some sunshine also…..

Boys as you will see I have emailed the Court last week and again today to ask when they will action the email from over a month ago that the Judge issued to say I am right , she and your solicitor forgot to add the warning notice as per the Children’s act 2006 , yet as I am sitting here now the same High Court of the Judge is not issuing the updated order thus allowing me to file for the committal of your care giver as she has breached the contact order 3 times already since 5 Dec 2013 , but surprise , surprise , no response from the Court or the Judge, but yet they could not act fast enough to enforce the court undertaking that they have included for your care giver…. More discrimination ? I think so… Sure they will come with a stupid excuse again but what they seem to forget is that their actions now have invalidated the very order and undertaking , so will be interesting to see how they try and get around this one !

I had a busy morning here today , lots of emails and admin stuff to sort, the new mandates for the South African Solicitors have been done for the project I have been working on, so things are moving forward now…..

Ouma and Oupa says hello and sends all their love …. , Ouma is watering the garden on the patio today as we have not had rain for a couple of days, I must say it is a lot cooler here then what it should be this time of the year , but no complaints from me in that regard…can’t wait for winter if I am honest…..nice crisp cold mornings ! Joy !

Don’t know what your big plans are for this week , but knowing you both I am sure you have plenty of plans up your sleeves…just as long as you are safe , warm and happy as little men should be…..

O before I forget I see the Oscar P trial is going to be broadcast live here when it starts next month, I think by looking at the facts and him being such a known person it might be the trial of the decade…sure you two will read about it all one day…guess it will become part of history…..

Just want to say I miss and love you both so much …….don’t know how to put it in better words without me sounding like a bigger wimp than what I come across as when I write these updates for you both each day……

As always little men , I will see you both later tonight under our big old green tree in dream land , packing huge warm bear cuddles for you both….

Night , night little champs , happy dreams of proper court orders one day…

Love you both TTTTHhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiiSSSS much and miss you both a great deal more ……

Love you little men…..

Dad xx