How To Tell If Your Child Is Stressed Out During Your Divorce

Worth a read little men , just Cafcass and the Court ignores all the signs …..

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            Young children often have a language of their own and it’s up to you, as their parent, to look for certain clues as to what emotional issues they are experiencing. In a divorce or custody battle, most parents make an effort to shield their children from the whole situation so the kids don’t have to deal with any of the stress that’s flying around during these kinds of cases. Despite our efforts to protect our children, they still get affected by what’s going on and it can be hard to tell what’s going through their heads in those young years because they’re brains and emotions are still developing and they’re still figuring out how to deal with them and process what’s going on in their minds and bodies. The bottom line is that it makes it hard for you as a parent to know…

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A little email about your care givers spokesperson little men…. Note the date

Subject: RE: Re Mr Xxxxxxxx
Date: Thu, 19 Sep 2013 12:15:12 +0100
From: rb@bsglaw.co.uk
To: phillferreira@hotmail.com
CC: peter.morey@cafcass.gsi.gov.uk

Dear Mr Ferreira

Thank you for your email.

I do note that this email was sent to both the Guardian and myself without copying Mrs Ferreira’s legal representatives in. As the Guardian acts on behalf of your children, and not on behalf of either yourself or indeed Mrs Ferreira, it is not possible for him to consider information that has not been disclosed to all parties. Therefore, a copy of this email will need to be circulated to Mrs Ferreira’s solicitors before he can take a view. Perhaps you can attend to this.

In any event, it appears to me that this information is information that is within your own knowledge, and not something that the Guardian has personal experience of. It would therefore be inappropriate for an application to be made on behalf of the children for an order to prevent Mrs Ferreira from bringing them in to contact with her Father on the basis of what you have said alone.

If you feel that there is an issue to be determined then the correct way forward would be for you to make an application, and for the Judge to determine that having heard evidence. As I act on behalf of the children, I can only advise you as to procedure in general, I cannot give you any legal advice. If you are in any doubt as to your position, then you should consider whether you need to seek your own independent legal advice. That is of course a matter for you.

I trust that this clarifies the position for you.

Becky Butterfield

BSG Solicitors

http://www.bsglaw.co.uk

BSG Solicitors is the trading style of Blackhurst Swainson Goodier LLP which is a
limited liability partnership registered in England and Wales (Registered No. OC350314).

We use the word ‘partner’ to refer to a member of the LLP, or an employee or consultant
who is a lawyer with equivalent standing and qualifications.Partners: Mark Burrow,
George Mercer BA, Tom O’Neill LLB, James Goodier MA (Oxon), Keith Parr BA,
Andie Brown LLB, Rebecca Lauder LLB.

Registered office 3&4 Aalborg Square, Lancaster, LA1 1BJ. Authorised and regulated
by the Solicitors Regulation Authority (no. 00524974).

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From: Phill Ferreira [mailto:phillferreira@hotmail.com]
Sent: 17 September 2013 08:12
To: Rebecca Butterfield; peter.morey@cafcass.gsi.gov.uk
Subject: Re Mr xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Becky,

Hope you are well this morning,

Apologies for all the emails yesterday!

As mentioned I have some serious concerns re allowing Mr McClure to be left caring for my boys even for short periods and these concerns were highlighted on Saturday again at the contact centre.

This man is 70 years old and in the 29 months of my boys life Xxxxx would have never left him alone with the boys due to his drinking and absent mindedness.

He would be in the Kitchen at home with the boys, his mobile phone would go and he would walk out leaving the boys alone in the kitchen with no locks on the cupboards , and go talk on his phone outside leaving the boys alone with cupboards full of harmful cleaning materials.

He has never changed a nappy on one of the boys as he says this is not his job , he left Xxxxxx with me on Saturday with a dirty nappy.

He is not able to fit or remove the boys from their car seats and will just place them lose and drive with them like that.

He also took it upon him self to discuss details of this case with the staff at the contact centre in great fabricated detail.

He gets so drunk each night that he hallucinates and start screaming the Mow Mow are coming to get him , he will try and carry Xxxx around when he is drunk with no regard if he is hurting him.

He is constantly taking diet tablets that makes him even more aggressive then what he is when drunk.

This man used very bad language , so does his whole family in front of my boys , they pretend to be the Walton’s to people but all they do is fight and argue when the doors are closed.

He is currently making making Xxxxxx a victim of domestic violence by controlling her and the boys with his CHQ book

His own wife is to scared to speak to him , as she says she just keeps her mouth shut or she gets it also !

Guys this man is a very , very bad influence to have around my boys as he was the one that got his son Xxxxxx to blackmail me to give Xxxx money to see the boys.

He is also the driving force behind me not seeing the boys as he is litigating on Xxxxxxx behalf

I will wait to hear back from you both but i guess i will have to file an urgent application next week if you choose to ignore this.

Kind Regards,

Phill

Just so you know who went public with your case first little men….

Subject: FW: Message from Steve McClure to my friend Karen on Facebook after the last day in Court

> Subject: Message from Steve McClure to my friend Karen on Facebook after the last day in Court
> From: phillferreira@hotmail.com
> Date: Wed, 30 Oct 2013 20:54:46 +0400
> To: peter.morey@cafcass.gsi.gov.uk; sw@clarksonhirst.com; rb@bsglaw.co.uk
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> Hi Karen
> Brilliant day In Lancaster today, you know who lost the plot!! love to catch up with you to reveal all, you will be staggered beyond belief at the ACTUAL TRUTH give us a call at our home no
> Steve Mc
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> So what do you 3 think about third party disclosure now!
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> Sent from my iPad

Email just in from your Solicitor boys….

Begin forwarded message:

From: “Rebecca Butterfield”
Date: 13 February 2014 15:00:49 GMT+2
To: , <xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Cc:
Subject: Guardian’s position statement

Dear Mr and Mrs Ferreira

Please find attached the Guardian’s position statement as directed in advance of the hearing listed on 28th February 2014.

The Guardian is becoming increasingly concerned by the tone of the current correspondence, and also by the fact that Mr Ferreira is now posting each and every item sent and received via email to his public blog. It is, in the Guardian’s view, not at all child focused, and does not assist the boys.

However, it now appears that all the evidence needed for that hearing has now been filed, save for the updated index and preliminary documents which will be circulated in due course. I cannot see that there are any further issues that need to be addressed in email correspondence between now and the next hearing, and therefore I do not propose to enter in to any further email correspondence save to serve the documents mentioned above and in case of an emergency.

Whilst it is a matter for you both whether or not you chose to send email correspondence in this time, I would urge you not to do so unless there is an emergency. The situation appears to be increasingly acrimonious, and the ongoing correspondence is doing little to assist.

If Mr Ferreira could confirm whether or not he proposes to attend the hearing on 28th February, in light of the fact that no contact will now be taking place on 27th February, that would assist.

I would also point out that if Mr Ferreira wishes to pursue his application to attend by video link as requested in his C2 application, then he will need to take this up with the Court. I would make it clear that if this is what Mr Ferreira is seeking, it is his responsibility to organise this with the Court staff.

Kind regards

Becky Butterfield
BSG Solicitors
3 & 4 Aalborg Square
Lancaster LA1 1GG
DX 63506 Lancaster
Tel: 01524 386500
Fax: 01524 386515

http://www.bsglaw.co.uk

BSG Solicitors is the trading style of Blackhurst Swainson Goodier LLP which is a
limited liability partnership registered in England and Wales (Registered No. OC350314).

We use the word ‘partner’ to refer to a member of the LLP, or an employee or consultant
who is a lawyer with equivalent standing and qualifications.Partners: Mark Burrow,
George Mercer BA, Tom O’Neill LLB, James Goodier MA (Oxon), Keith Parr BA,
Andie Brown LLB, Rebecca Lauder LLB.

Registered office 3&4 Aalborg Square, Lancaster, LA1 1BJ. Authorised and regulated
by the Solicitors Regulation Authority (no.

Daily update for my Boys 13 Feb 2014

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Good afternoon little men!

I hope you both are having a very fun day at school! And that you both are doing very well…..

Been running around a little today to get a couple of things sorted, I have also been able to catch up on my email…..

Can’t believe how humid it is here today…not fun that I can promise you both…..

Oupa has sorted his little bike as he is going on a day ride tomorrow, I think he is excited as he has not used the small bike in ages , looks like he will put it in the bakkie and then use it when he gets to the biker meeting place….

Ouma and I have to get to the mall and post office also to sort some of the new ongoing issues but I guess tomorrow is another day also…..

O before I forget your blog had it’s best day yet yesterday , over 240 hits in about 4 hours last night , I guess the truth is getting out a little bit more each day ! Boy o boy and some people don’t like dealing with the truth , I guess nothing changes…..

I think I can now safely say I will not be allowed to see you both on 27 Feb as your care giver has not done one thing as per the Court order in this regard since 5 Dec 2013 , and shock horror , your solicitor and Cafcass are backing this behaviour once again ! But hey maybe you both will be able to come see me weekends in jail soon , as I told you both at least jails visiting hours and frequency of visits is more than what we 3 are being offered by your care giver and Cafcass. I am really sorry about this champs but this is all part of the game your care giver and her spokesperson have been playing with your lives since April last year …..just remember parental alienation is child abuse no matter what they will try and tell you one day !…….

I think tomorrow is going to be a relax day for me , I am struggling a bit , but on wards and upwards as they say……

I hope you both will have a good one tomorrow again at school….sure you must be looking forward to the weekend….hope you have lots of fun plans up your sleeves……

I will see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land …..can’t wait to give you both a dream cuddle….

Night , night little men , fun happy dreams please….

Love you both truck loads full and miss you more….

Love you little men…

Dad xx

More re 27 Feb and Core Assets little men …..

Begin forwarded message:

From: “Rebecca Butterfield”
Date: 13 February 2014 12:33:57 GMT+2
To: xxxxxxxxxxxx
Cc: ,
Subject: RE: Core Assets

Dear Mrs Xxxxxxxxx

Thank you for your email.

Firstly in respect of our telephone conversation last week, I did speak to the Guardian about your concerns, and he contacted you to make an appointment to visit the children on 9th February 2014. I therefore cannot accept that I simply failed to respond to your concerns.

Secondly, I feel that you have perhaps misunderstood my earlier email to your father. I am certainly not suggesting that you should not have raised your concerns with Core Assets. I think that would have been completely appropriate for you to have done so. My concern (and the Guardian’s concern) was the manner in which this was dealt with, as I had previously confirmed that during the referral process you would be able to discuss your concerns about safety with Core Assets, and certainly before any contact between the children and their Father would have taken place. I felt that it was unhelpful that the proper process had been circumvented, and that if you had concerns, it should have been you who raised them with Core Assets.

In any event it appears from Mr Ferreira’s emails received this morning that I had misunderstood his position, and that he had never planned on accepting the terms of Core Assets in any event, so whether or not they will now accept the referral seems to be a moot point.

The Guardian has been concerned by Mr Ferreira’s conduct, in particular the re-posting of information about these proceedings on his public blog. His position in this respect will be confirmed in his position statement due to be circulated tomorrow, and we are considering the most appropriate way to deal with this issue.

I trust this clarifies the position for you.

In the meanwhile, I confirm that I have received your application to enforce the undertaking from the Court, and note that this has been issued alongside the existing proceedings on 28th February 2014.

Kind regards

Becky Butterfield
BSG Solicitors

http://www.bsglaw.co.uk

BSG Solicitors is the trading style of Blackhurst Swainson Goodier LLP which is a
limited liability partnership registered in England and Wales (Registered No. OC350314).

We use the word ‘partner’ to refer to a member of the LLP, or an employee or consultant
who is a lawyer with equivalent standing and qualifications.Partners: Mark Burrow,
George Mercer BA, Tom O’Neill LLB, James Goodier MA (Oxon), Keith Parr BA,
Andie Brown LLB, Rebecca Lauder LLB.

Registered office 3&4 Aalborg Square, Lancaster, LA1 1BJ. Authorised and regulated
by the Solicitors Regulation Authority

Core Assets ; today’s story little men ….

Dear Mr Ferreria

Thank you for confirming your position and that you no longer wish to
accept the contact that I had been attempting to arrange in accordance
with the Court order.

As you will have gathered from my emails yesterday, Core Assets have not
yet decided whether or not they will accept your family’s referral in
any event, so I will notify them that you no longer wish to proceed with
them so that they can cease that risk assessment.

Kind regards

Becky Butterfield
BSG Solicitors

BSG Solicitors is the trading style of Blackhurst Swainson Goodier LLP which is a limited
liability partnership registered in England and Wales (Registered No. OC350314).
We use the word ‘partner’ to refer to a member of the LLP, or an employee or consultant who
is a lawyer with equivalent standing and qualifications.Partners: Mark Burrow, George Mercer BA,
Tom O’Neill LLB, James Goodier MA (Oxon), Keith Parr BA, Andie Brown LLB, Rebecca Lauder LLB.
Registered office 3&4 Aalborg Square, Lancaster, LA1 1BJ.
Authorised and regulated by the Solicitors Regulation Authority (no. 00524974).

—–Original Message—–

From: Phill Ferreira [mailto:phillferreira@hotmail.com]
Sent: 12 February 2014 18:19
To: Rebecca Butterfield; peter.morey@cafcass.gsi.gov.uk
Subject: Core Assets 28 Feb 2014

Dear Becky,

Am I missing something here ? I did not agree to the proposal from the
care giver nor Core Assets , I made it very clear to you all that I will
not see our boys whiles being locked in a room,

You also forget you suggested Core Assets and they offer outings, which
I said was what I wanted to do , you said the care giver and I need to
sort this out ourselves,

I hope you and Peter are starting to see these peoples true
personalities and the abuse I have had to suffer the past 5 years from
this family and the Child abuse you , Peter and the Court agrees to
expose our boys to for the rest of their lives!

I did email Core Assets to ask why they want to charge for reports and 2
supervisors as you all have been happy for me to see our boys in a
unsecured Church filthy run down Community hall.

You also forget Mr Steve Mcclure had an inappropriate discussion even
with the ladies at the last contact centre and I must just sit back and
let him and his daughter bad mouth me at will !

How do I expose our boys to risk at a venue I have and will not agree to
?

Your yourself agreed the cost is very high, your email is posted on my
blog.

Kind a Regards,

Phill Ferreira

Sent from my iPad

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