Daily update for my Boys 21 May 2014

So this is me today Champs 🙂

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Lol , back to your daily update and Footprints …

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Good evening Little Men …

I hope my muppets are doing very , very fine today …

I assume you have settled down now a little again after the excitement of your big day yesterday …must have been a great deal of fun turning 3 and know being big little men 🙂

As I am sure you have seen I was awake most of last night , not sure why , I guess I had a lot on my mind thinking about you both and wondering how you are and if you had a nice day …..

I think I am just getting use to the time difference now , but am home next week and then traveling again , I have moved the dates for the visit to the Philippines as Darren and them want me to come for their birthday week , so that will only be in July , so I will only be home for the week and then back to work again ..

I think we got loads done here this month , the team have been fantastic and looked after me very well , I am really proud of all the progress they have made since I last spent some time with them , yes we have had ups and downs but hey , such is life , but things are continuing on the up and that is all that matters at the end of the day 🙂

We have had some more very nice messages of encouragement for your blog , boys I think you both will be proud one day to know that our story and struggles have and continue to touch so many peoples lives…will it help us ? I don’t know , maybe not but we have to keep trying and believing if not we have given up and I have never done that in my life , nor do I believe you two would ……

Not sure if you are back home yet , but if you are I hope you both allowed B&B to give you both a wet sloppy face lick to welcome you home as I am pretty sure they have missed you tons …..

Don’t have more news to report Champs , so as always I hope to see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dreamland , packing some big welcome home wet sloppy licking cuddles for you both ….

Night , night Little Men …..happy dreams ……

Love you both around the world and back , and miss you both so much more ….

Love you my BIG Little Men …..always …

Dad xx

A great quote , author unknown …….

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If you’re friends with a “favored parent,” the next time they say “If ‘target parent’ would simply stop posting on social media about parental alienation, our child would talk to them” say this to the favored parent…“If your child had a relationship with the other parent, then the other parent wouldn’t even have anything to post about in that regard. It seems to me that if you want the other parent to stop posting about parental alienation on social media, then it would be smart for you to make sure your child has a relationship with the other parent. Why don’t you call your child today and tell them that you WANT them to see their other parent as soon as possible and that you WANT them to have a happy and loving relationship with the other parent and that you won’t interfere with that in any way?”

Focus on Your Own Recovery…

Great post Kim as always as you know I have a report done in 2 hours at an airport to say I am a Narcissist thus ensuring family court will not allow me contact with my boys , thus I asked for these details to be able to do self improvement if this diagnosis was indeed correct , the Court and the psychologist refused to give me my records , the independent psychologist whom I went to see on my own accord does not agree that I am a Narcissist , Maybe a little OCD because I like things in its place and neat and tidy , so I guess that makes me crazy and a bad person and a threat to our little boys even on a Skype call ! 🙂 O and as I am sure you seen the Court feels my boys blog is causing them and their mother emotional abuse because I post all the documents and speak the truth !…

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In a past post, I described the heartbreakingly naïve suggestions listed in some of the mainstream books available on the topic of Narcissism.  One such book, Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, claims to help the reader “find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments”.

A moment for that to sink in…

Now, if you’re just learning about Narcissism, you may have felt a little pang of hope.  If you’ve been involved with one, you either felt insulted or had a good laugh.  Victims of narcissistic abuse know from experience that there is no way of communicating effectively with a Narcissist, no way of getting your point across to them, nor having one’s needs met.  From a victim’s standpoint, using the advice from this book is equivalent to going into battle…

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4am local time …..

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Hello Champs ..

Well it is 4 am local time here , I have been lying in bed for hours trying to sleep but no such luck ….

I think the call to prayers from the mosque close by will start shortly as the sun is starting to show on the horizon .. Not sure why but the call seems to give me calm and I guess hope each morning the past 3 weeks while I have been here , strange as it is something that I have always been aware off whiles living in the Middle East but have never found my self lying awake waiting for it ,almost as if it is a signal to start again , keep positive and never give up on what is right …..

Just been checking my Facebook page and the admin groups , boys you both would be so proud and pleased with all the lovely comments and messages of support received for you both on your birthday yesterday , I think that the one that hit home the most was from an old school friend whom I have not seen for years , she told me she reads your blog daily and that it gives her inspiration and hope ….maybe my heart was just shattered yesterday as it felt to me , like what’s the point , why keep doing it , most people think I am a nutter because of this blog , but as I told her, to me this blog gives me a couple of minutes with you both each day , and yes I know that is not really the case and yes I am aware you might never get to read it or even that you decide not to read it… Be that as it may , this comment made me realise again that even if we can help one little one , mum or dad then our pain had some purpose , more than just a daddy writing to his little boys because he miss them so much each and every day ….

Thus the question I have been struggling with the past couple of weeks of should I pull the plug on this blog and stop putting myself through the torture each day was answered last night …keep writing …. Keep sharing our story in the hope that it makes a diffidence maybe not to us 3 but to someone , somewhere , some day …….

I do hope you muppets are far away in dreamland now and having happy dreams of the day just gone past and that you ate safe …….

Love and miss you both so much Little Men ….always …

Dad xx