Having come across posts recently about grandparents affected by parental alienation, it prompted us to write about our own experiences.

My in-laws were victims of parental alienation, at the hands of their former daughter-in-law, the mother of their granddaughters.  They were, without notice, told they would no longer be allowed to babysit the children.  They went from seeing their grandchldren on an almost daily basis, to going months without any contact with them.  They received a letter from our alienating parent’s attorney, accusing my father-in-law of spying on the alienating parent and instructing him to curtail his visits to her home.  And when one of the children’s bicycle tires was slashed, who did the alienating parent blame:  her former father-in-law!

When those alienated children grew to become adults and began having children of their own, it wasn’t surprising to see their behavior emulating that of the alienating parent.  We were…

Most every target/victim has been totally derailed by the sudden devaluation and discard that they have personally experienced in their relationship with a Narcissist. You believed you were the only one and so very important and loved by them. You also put so much time, energy and love into this belief that there was this real love and YOU LOVED THEM BACK as every normal person would do in a committed relationship. Day by day with this love that you believed in you were caring, supportive, loving, giving, formed dreams with them, maybe even started a family, but most importantly you hung in there, and BELIEVED! THEN one day everything seems to have turned around and you are treated with inexplicable coldness, cruelty and pure disdain, as well as smeared to your family, friends, co-workers, etc. (behind your back of course!) You wonder what has happened and find yourself being…