Daily update for my Boys 10 June 2014

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Good evening Little Men!

How are my champs doing today ? I really hope well and safe !

I have just got back to the hotel , there seems to have been an attack on the airport again in Karachi this afternoon, things here in Lahore City still seems ok for now thus we are going to sit tight and see what happens tomorrow I guess.

It’s been a longggggg day , lol , I only got back from dinner at 4am this morning so only had like 3 hours before I had to be up and ready again , so was a hard day in the heat but the guys did great again , we got lots done , they still don’t want me to move around in the city alone due to the security alert here thus I have full time baby sitters , I feel bad as the guys are going out of their way to ensure that I am safe 🙂

I did not get to speak with the J twins last night to wish them happy 3rd birthday as they were in the bath I think so I ended up leaving them a voice mail on their daddies phone.

Ouma seems to still be having computer issues , she is taking it in now as she has no sound so her Skype etc. is not working at all , but her and Oupa have been emailing me , they both send all their love and big cyber cuddles your way.

I see it is nice and hot the next couple of days for you two also , but still 26 degrees is about half of what I am dealing with here now ! Not fun that I can promise you monkeys.

I think I am going straight to bed after a shower now as I can feel that I was out until 4am , lol , must be old age starting , long gone are the days I could go out like that 5 days a week and still function at work.

So little men as always I will see you both in about 20 min I think under our big old green tree in dreamland for some dream bear cuddles and smiles…

Night , night Champs , dream fun happy playful things !

Love you both to the moon and back and miss you loads more ….

Love you my Little Men ….always ….

Dad xx

The Deafening Brutality of the Narcissist’s Silent Treatment

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Feeling included is crucial to the human experience.  Humans have to feel connected to each other to be happy, even introverts who enjoy a large amount of independence.

According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the need to belong and feel accepted falls under the basic needs of food, water, and safety.  In fact, the need to belong can be so strong, that it can override the needs for food and safety.

Psychologists consider the silent treatment as a form of abuse.  It’s a popular form of mental torture used by Narcissists, whereby they cut their victims off by not talking to them for extended periods of time. Sometimes days or weeks, which keeps the victim in a constant state of fight-or-flight, during which they feel isolated and rejected, as well as physically sick.  The body’s physical reactions to this mental anguish are real. Headaches, stomachaches, and a general punched-in the-gut…

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Daily update for my Boys 9 June 2014

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Hello Little Men!

Hope my Champs are doing well today !

Just got back to the hotel and need to leave in 15 min again for dinner with our local partner , thus I can’t stay long !

I assume you have seen the trouble at Karachi airport last night , so we are on alert as many companies are pulling out the non Pakistan workers , I am going to stick it out for a while as Emirates have not cancelled flight to and from Lahore yet , they said they will keep us posted if we need to get out , but I think it will be fine as things still seem ok here in the city.

So just want to tell you both I love you lots and miss you loads and will see you much later tonight under our big old green tree in dreamland for some big double O bear dream cuddles ,

Night , night Champs , sweet dreams !

Love you both plenty much and miss you more!

Love you Little Men ….always …

Dad xx

How The Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse Changes Our World Views

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The word  “Trauma” is derived from the Greek term meaning “wound.” When targets encounter relationships with narcissists, what takes place is a human wound & trauma. When a person is wounded, there requires a time of healing; however scarring is often a result.

During times of psychic trauma, our belief that we are invulnerable to harm becomes shattered. Our defense mechanisms break down and we suddenly can’t function the way we used to. We begin to feel inadequate for not having the ability to process the trauma in a short time. Subsequent emotional arousal can reawaken the narc abuse experience that we feel the emotions all over again and realize that there’s an ongoing attack on those defense mechanisms; we’re attacked both within and without. The trauma of narcissistic abuse collapses our worldview and assumptions about life in one full blow.

Our assumptions about how we think life should operate…

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Daily update for my Boys 8 June 2014

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Good evening Little Men !

Hope you both have had a fantastic Sunday and perhaps a nice roast dinner with lots of nice and crispy roast potatoes 🙂

Well I have done my first drive to the factory and back from the hotel , so I guess it is now official I can drive in Pakistan , had to doge a couple of donkeys and tuc-tuc’s but all and all not that bad , the finance manager went with me for back up so he give me some tips , like if a signal is not working or just flashing yellow you do not stop ! Well that goes against everything I was ever taught regarding rules of the road , lol , but as he tried to tell me , I need to remember things work a little different here , if I stop and follow the rules of the road I will get hit from behind or cause a traffic jam , thus we shall do like the Romans while is Rome as the saying goes 🙂

We have a busy week planned here as we have had so much down time and disruptions last week , so it is all hands on deck to work towards the goals we have set for this month ! As normal I remain the ultimate optimist 🙂

As you have seen I hit the mall next to my hotel , the 2 pairs of Jeans ended up being a couple more things but hey as I said all my stuff is too big for me now so guess I have to build a new wardrobe , the guys in the shops here don’t believe me that I am 40 in Jan so they keep trying to sell me stuff the kids wear , the more I tell them the closes I will go to that is my skinny Jeans as I like those but have ended up with some One Direction coloured skinny Chino’s also , funny enough I actually really like them and they fit great , not sure they will let me pass from 20 with my receding hairline , but that’s a story for another day 🙂

So boys I hope you both will have a fantastic week , I see the weather has not been great , so let’s hope you get plenty of sun shine for loads of outside fun playtime ….

Night . Night Champs , dream big of endless possibilities ….

Love you both truck loads full and miss you big heavy duty trailers full ….

Love you my Little O’s ….always …

Dad xx

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