In a past post, I described the heartbreakingly naïve suggestions listed in some of the mainstream books available on the topic of Narcissism.  One such book, Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, claims to help the reader “find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments”.

A moment for that to sink in…

Now, if you’re just learning about Narcissism, you may have felt a little pang of hope.  If you’ve been involved with one, you either felt insulted or had a good laugh.  Victims of narcissistic abuse know from experience that there is no way of communicating effectively with a Narcissist, no way of getting your point across to them, nor having one’s needs met.  From a victim’s standpoint, using the advice from this book is equivalent to going into battle…