Daily update for my Boys 13 March 2014

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Good afternoon little men…

How are you two muppets doing today ? I really hope very well….

Well, guess what ….it’s still raining here ….it’s not funny anymore …the floods are now getting silly … I am going out a little later to go drop your things as I need to get them out of the 4 x4 so I will be venturing out tonight in the floods but maybe I should take a speedboat instead ….lol…

All the house stuff is also done now , one more large mirror to hang and then all done…

Boys your blog got a couple more followers last night and today again , I must say it makes me so proud to know how many people care so much for you both … I have also made some good new friends via your blog … I think this made me realise again that the battle us three have been having with the Courts the past year is nothing in comparison to what some of the little ones and their mums and dads are dealing with…I just so wish us three could do more to help people living this nightmare still … I know we don’t stand a chance with your paid surrogate and her spokespersons lies and that breaks my heart but who knows maybe one day we will speak or maybe even see each other again……

Can’t believe tomorrow is the weekend again , these past 2 weeks have flown by…next week should be back to normal again as normal as I think things can be for now…….

Just realised today it’s almost a year since this mess started , so much have changed ….new people , new places loads of new friends and experiences but you know what little men , I am still standing …. So onwards and upwards as they say for the next chapter to begin , still don’t know if it is going to be a short one or a long one , time will tell I assume …

I really hope you both are doing well and that you are safe and being looked after , I have my serious concerns as you know about your hostage situation but can’t do much about it at this stage ….breaks my heart if I am honest…..

So little men , I will see you both later tonight under our big old green tree in dream land , can’t wait for my dream cuddles and smiles ….

Night , night little champs ….happy almost weekend dreams…..

Love you both big dry land areas full and miss you extra more ….

Love you little men…..always….

Dad xx

Dan’s adventures sounds like our story little men….

Dealing with Another Unethical Mental Health Professional
This really appears to be one of those “here we go again” moments. I had a hard time coming up with a title for this post because this new ordeal is so mind-boggling. When I was incarcerated at Putnamville Correctional Facility, my Indiana criminal appellate lawyer began taking measures to help reunite me with my daughters. He found Dr. D. Mark Snelson, M.D., a psychiatrist from Indianapolis, and obtained prior approval from Judge Ted Todd that Snelson could evaluate me. (For those new to my story, in August 2009, Judge James D. Humphrey terminated my parenting time with my 3 and 5 year old daughters, until I underwent a psychological evaluation to determine I was not a potential danger to anyone. I underwent an evaluation in October 2009, but could not get a court date to have the evaluator approved until November 24, 2010; over a year later. Judge Todd denied that psychiatrist because he wasn’t pre-approved.) My lawyer checked around and came up with Dr. Snelson. Per the Court’s order, Snelson’s job was to determine if I posed a potential risk to my daughters, their mother, or myself so that I may then participate in supervised visitation with my girls under the supervision of another mental health provider. My lawyer and Snelson agreed that Snelson would meet with me in prison to expedite the process of being reunited with my daughters. I had my doubts about being evaluated by anyone in Indiana given my experiences with the Indiana Courts but I was talked into ignoring my “paranoia” and going ahead and meeting with Snelson. I mean, lightening couldn’t strike twice, could it? Bang.

Judge Humphrey terminated my parenting time for exactly what I am doing in this blog post. One lawyer advised me not to post this because it could be perceived as me attacking everyone I run across in the court system. As a reader, I ask you to decide if this is worthy of public criticism. Read the letter of Dr. D. Mark Snelson, dated February 12, 2014. Snelson met with me at Putnamville for 1 ½ hours on August 20, 2013. He then recommended I undergo a thorough psychological evaluation with psychologist Dr. “Chris.” (“Chris” is the first name of the psychologist. I was going to go with “Dr. C” but I did not want people to confuse the psychologist with Dr. Connor. I underwent a battery of psychological testing and was interviewed on several occasions by Dr. Chris. Dr. Chris was very professional and his fees were what I believe to be very acceptable. Dr. Chris issued an evaluation opining I was not a danger and could have unsupervised visitation with my daughters.) Snelson claims to have performed a psychiatric evaluation of me as requested by the Court. He also alleges he conducted an extensive review or the court records from my criminal trial in October 2011. In all, he wrote 237 words; the last 16 being “I you have further questions, please feel free to contact me at the above listed number.” The fee for this 237 word “psychiatric evaluation”: $3,692. And who did Dr. Snelson address this letter to? Judge James D. Humphrey.

Before the few detractors start crying about me not agreeing with professionals who do not side with me, take a close look at Dr. Snelson’s 237 word letter/report. There is no recommendation. The first thing to note is he addressed the letter to Judge James D. Humphrey who hasn’t presided over my case since June 2009. Snelson would have known this if he would have actually reviewed any records. Snelson referred me to a psychologist for an extensive evaluation (which cost $3,700) yet never mentions reviewing the evaluation; just phone consultations with Dr. Chris. Snelson wrote “[Supervised visitation] was agreeable to Mr. Brewington as his stated goal was ‘my job is to prove I’m not going to become a danger and get visitation of my girls’!” Read that sentence aloud, then read it aloud again. My high school English teacher Mrs. Z (to whom I am eternally grateful!), would crucify me for that type of sentence structure. I couldn’t even imagine what she would have done if she paid me $3,692 to write something so ridiculous. Snelson then states he did not have the opportunity to meet with me or my daughters after my release from prison. Interviewing the children was not part of the order and why would he need further interviews with me when the evaluation of the psychologist Snelson referred me to states I was not a danger to the children. So Snelson writes a letter addressed to Judge Humphrey with no professional recommendations and ends the letter with “I you have further questions, please feel free to contact me at the above listed number.” To put some perspective on how alarming this is, imagine what would happen if an expert ballistics witness in the trial of George Zimmerman just told the judge in the case to give him a call if he had any questions.

Before going any further, I do want to clarify that Snelson’s evaluation did not actually cost $3,692. The price tag was actually $2,692. The extra grand came when Snelson scheduled an appointment to meet with me at the prison without notifying my lawyer or me. When he finally told my lawyer about scheduled appointment, my lawyer told Snelson I was not ready to meet with him. Snelson charged $1,000 to cancel because it was past the allotted time frame to cancel appointments. Snelson set up an appointment to see me, failed to tell my lawyer or me about the appointment until the day before, and then charged $1,000 because Snelson wasn’t given advanced notice of the cancellation. (I wasn’t made aware of this until recently. I would not have gone through any evaluation with someone exhibiting questionable ethics at the onset of the evaluation process.) After already paying roughly $7,400 for the evaluation process, Snelson tries to extort more money by trying to schedule more evaluations with me and my daughters before he could determine if I was safe enough to pay another mental health professional to supervise visitation per the current court order. When my lawyer questioned the additional sessions and informed Snelson the order did not include an evaluation of my children, Snelson wrote a letter to a judge who hasn’t presided over my case in nearly 4 years.

This is why I write. This is why Joe Sorge made the documentary Divorce Corp. How often does professional misconduct on the part of mental health professionals in custody proceedings occur when it’s happened to me twice? To any detractors I ask, how is this my fault? Sure I could have gone through more evaluations. I’m sure someone could have dragged my kids from Cincinnati, Ohio to Indianapolis, Indiana for evaluations. That would have cost another $8,000-$10,000. Then I would have to pay another few thousand to cover the costs of a mental health professional to supervise visitation. So in order to determine I am not a potential danger to my children and capable of unsupervised parenting time, (as always I like to remind people that there were never any reports of abuse, neglect, etc., and Dr. Connor recommended liberal parenting time in his testimony during my divorce) Dr. Snelson believes I should have to spend somewhere in the range of $20,000 to become an “unrestricted” parent once again. (Please note the $20,000 estimate could soar if my ex-wife forces me to subpoena all of these professionals to appear in court to prove I am not going to be a potential danger to anyone.) Rulings in family courts, like Judge Humphrey’s, turn parents into chum that are thrown in shark infested waters. All the mental health professionals have to do is state they want to be super-duper sure the children are safe and the sky is the limit. (Once again I want to reiterate the professionalism of “Dr. Chris” and his fair billing and am in no way lumping him in with unscrupulous individuals like Dr. Connor and Dr. Snelson.) Judge Humphrey took away my children because I criticized Dr. Connor on the internet. Humphrey testified to this in my criminal trial. I went to prison for 2.5 years because I criticized Humphrey. Now I am criticizing Dr. D. Mark Snelson M.D. for his conduct. Hopefully, the right people will begin to listen.

I didn’t know that Dandlebear

A good Dandlebear story by Karen again , little men……

karenwoodall's avatarKaren Woodall - Psychotherapist, Writer, Researcher, Trainer

One morning, when the sunlight poked its fingers through the curtains, Jack woke up in a grumpy mood. ‘Who told the sunshine it could come into my bedroom’ he said to himself under his breath as he climbed out of bed and went to brush his teeth. ‘Who put my toothbrush in the wrong place’ he mumbled as he reached around the toys to get it back from where he had thrown it the night before, ‘who said I wanted toast for my breakfast’ he groaned as he sat down at the table, where his mum had already finished eating.

‘What’s up’ said his mum as Jack took a big bite of his toast, ‘nothing’ said Jack in a miserable sort of a way. ‘Oh well’ said mum, as she got up to put the dishes in the sink, ‘I am sure things will get better.’  I don’t think they…

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Daily update for my Boys 12 March 2014

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Hello little men…

How are my champs doing today ? I hope fantastic …

Well pals as you can see by the photo today it is still raining and no sign yet of it stopping , we had the worst thunder and lightning storm last night also , you could feel the ground shake a couple of times and then in normal African style we had a power cut , at least it was bed time so not to serious but I must say I jumped a couple of times whiles trying to fall asleep as I had my window open… Think I got a couple more grey hair in the process …lol

I have been out to the shops a little and was able to sort the bank stuff via internet banking so less painful as expected….

Was going to see friends tonight but with the rain I have decided to put that off for tomorrow hoping things will improve on the roads here… Was going to drop your stuff at their new homes …so now I have the whole back of the 4 x4 full of stuff tonight …. So I will have to sort it tomorrow as I can’t drive around here with the stuff on display as that is just looking for trouble or a broken window ….the joys of Africa again…..

Need to touch base with work tomorrow also I think to see what is still left to be completed on the current project….

I wonder if you two have started a new school yet or if you are now back at your old school as suggested , it’s also not long now before you operation Oliver , not sure if I will get any news but I will phone the hospital on the day to make sure all went ok and that you are safe … Might be a little sore but at least it will be done then after all the delays caused by you know who ……

Well little men I hope you will have a great day tomorrow full of fun , smiles and lots of learning …..

Can’t wait to see you both a little later under our big old green tree in dream land as always …. Big bear cuddles tonight please ….lol

Night , night little men … Happy dreams please …..

Love you both around the world and back and miss you much more …

Love you little men…always …

Dad xx

What is True Love

A good read from Carrie ….

Carrie Reimer's avatarLady witha truck

My son arrived back in BC Saturday night and Sunday morning I received this picture in a text message. No words, only a picture. I opened it and cried. I had to sit and look at it for a while trying to figure out why on earth I would be crying.Image
 
I was crying out of joy of course, because I love my son and I have missed him more than I ever admit because he is a man who has to live his life and I don’t want to ever make him feel guilty for following his dreams or doing what he needs to do for himself. It is like when he was married and I never did like his wife much, I didn’t think they were a good match, she was bossy and talked baby talk to him LOL But I never said anything, then my mom…

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