NB. Now before anyone gets up a head of steam, the title is an ACRONYM it stands for Crazy. Uneducated. Nasty. Tramps. That’s much better, isn’t it?
There is a class of persons – in most western States – single mothers by choice, those females whose career of choice, the one that generates an income for them, is having babies that the State then steps in to support.
In Ireland we call them “scangers” in the UK I believe the term is “Chav’s” in the US it is “Trailer Trash” – I believe. I’m not sure what the vernacular is in Canada, Australia or New Zealand.
What is worth noting is, the fact that there is a generally recognised vernacular word to describe this class of persons suggests that the phenomenon is prevalent enough, visible enough, and…
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The Story of my Twin Boys Oliver and Oscar Ferreira 
Dear Phil ,
I have logged on regularly to view your blog which I stumbled upon since you first started as I was interested to read your story .
I thought that this was going to be something heartfelt and honest that two little boys would cherish reading when they are old enough -it would appear however that this blog has turned into a wolf in sheep’s clothing ….
You keep declaring your love for your boys , but it is sad to see that what you have created will destroy them and any vestiges of a relationship that you may have with them if they read it .
I note with interest your newly acquired description of followers of this blog as ‘trolls ‘ – I think that you have not properly researched the meaning of this word as I have seen nothing that seeks to harm you or your boys in any way ( which is what Internet ‘trolls ‘ do).
This is also accompanied by the description of their mother as a ‘care giver ‘ – can you imagine what your boys will make of you describing the woman who carried them for 9 months , gave birth and tended to their social, emotional and physical needs since they were born ? I fear you will evoke a reaction that you do not want – if someone called your mother this or the other things you call her in your blog – how would you react ? I would really choose your words more carefully and think of the consequences of everything you write .
I held my tongue in commenting earlier but your posting of information with a crass anagram was too much -anagram or not – the word spelled out is inappropriate for your boys to see ……or am I missing something ? Ah yes – I see , the blog is not for them , it is for you and the fulfilment of some bizarre need you seem to have ……( I believe it is described as narcissistic – btw please learn to spell this word and others as you use it many times .) I have indeed followed with interest at what can only be likened to car crash tv …..so I would not be uplifted by the numbers of visitors you seem to revel in- I think we are all viewing for the same reason !
I and am sure others have watched a decline in your apparent mental state over the last couple if weeks and to be honest am not surprised that you are not allowed unsupervised contact with your boys – I would not feel comfortable leaving you with a child at all from what I have been reading .
I have read a variety of extreme behaviour you have been exhibiting …. Mania , euphoria and now self pity – it is a shame that with the latter you have failed to research properly -low blood pressure is not treated by taking to your bed . In fact you seem for someone who claims to be looking so thoroughly into everything – yet is doing the exact opposite … So much of what you have posted ( if you read it properly ) contradicts what you are saying and with mass posting of other peoples posts / pictures , this demonstrates a lack of your own thoughts and ideas , portraying you as merely plagiaristic and weak -is this how you want ‘your boys ‘ to view you ?
I hope that you are receiving appropriate treatment for your emotional health – not just for those illnesses for which you are attempting to gain sympathy . I can see from the photos you post of your boys that they look healthy and happy – surely this is what you strive for – not to instil hatred and pity into them ? ( incidentally being in nappies at 2 1/2 is developmentally appropriate at this time of year – normal developmental timescale is obviously something you know little about – it is my area of expertise )
Once again I urge you to rethink the content of your blog with respect to the audience you purport it to have been for ….
Emma
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Hi Emma,
Thank you for your post, it’s always good to get a perspective from a person that has no details relating to the case history and the facts, as you must be well aware off I can not post case details on this blog as the proceeding are still on going.
Re your concern about my spelling please excuse me for this as I am writing in a 2nd langue which sometimes cause these issues, but as I am human and not professing to be a English langue expert I guess that is fair enough.
I have no mental health issues, I spoke with a psychologist for 2,5 hours at a airport hotel 4 hours before I had to leave the UK and our boys due to the care giver refusing to confirm that I have contact with our boys , there is no international standard that allows a single interview to give a diagnoses of any kind, as it seems you are a psychologist you will well know that a pattern of behavior needs to be seen over a number of consultations, but these rule seems to be ignored by your profession. It is also strange how your profession profile people that are not from the UK against the normal UK population and then try and make this stand up in Court, amusing to say the least.
Re me medical health , again you have no history so happy to share that with you, but just a note 65% of family pass away before 50 from their hearts my own brother did at 38 , I am 39 this week…….
Am I frustrated yes, as the care giver has gone as far as to tell police and the Court that my family are in the Mafia thus her life is at risk , they believe her although the Interpol checks have come clear and safe on me and my family, now you say ‘ mother’ what ‘mother’ tells our friends she needs to keep control of our boys to ensure she gets the maximum state funding so that she does not have to work ? is that right and just if your eyes?
Also just a correction re the troll comment , this revers to one person and one person alone Sheila McClure , I have removed this woman months ago from my facebook , she then still tried to email me and I had to block her , she then decided to become a email follower to my blog to allow my ex-family to stalk me daily as they used a 16 year old also that was still on my facebook account to do the same thing. I assume you have seen the messages the troll has sent me ,
Re my boys in nappies, I do not agree with you at all , I just have to look around my friends and there are a large number who had twins and little ones with in months of our boys, and NOT one of these little ones are in nappies anymore, even the nursery in Horsham said they start potty training before the boys would turn 2 , so I guess they and the rest of the world will agree this is bad parenting no matter what you say, sorry no offence
You also forget this blog the boys will only see when they are much older thus I share information that I hope will make them understand the abuse they are currently suffering and why , as they will have questions as all children from broken homes do. They would want to know why did their family try and blackmail me for contact with things like furniture , why the care giver refuses for us to go on supervised outing approved by CAFCASS but insist that we get locked in a room as she has done for the last year. Why they have not been allowed to speak with their other grandparents for a year now , not even a phone call on Christmas day , and you say I have mental issues , I beg to differ madam but also take note and appreciate your opinion.
You also forget that in one of the contact session one of my boys have already told me mummy says daddy is a monster – how does 2 year old learn that from a good mother? I think not.
Re the pictures I use again I appreciate your comments but they come from groups that I am involved and speak with and the issues I feel are true and relevant to what is being done to me and our boys, at no point have I asked for sympathy nor have I asked any person to read or follow the blog but unlike the care giver I have friends and people that has known me and her for a long time and they know who has the mental issues and who is a daddy with a broken heart because a care giver wants to control.
The pictures on the blog are old ones as the care giver refuses to provide good quality new ones , she sends blurry ones but yet am told post fantastic ones on her facebook page daily..
Emma this is not meant to have a go at you and as I have said before I will post all comments but will respond , but I think you need to think about the facts and if you want me to give you more details I am happy to do so in private once I know who you are.
But you can not deny parental alienation and defend a person with only one side of the story
Why then do I have to spend a year in Court for the care giver to turn around and say she will do what she wants and the court refuses to enforce the warning and penal notice as per the children’s act 2006 ? would you not get frustrated also
Cafcass without asking me decide I can only come to the UK 4 times a year to see our boys for 2 hours , so they think more than a 1000 pound a hours for time with our boys is a good deal for me ? am I really the only sane person in this story?
Guess it must be all down to me the only one with a Narcissistic personality in this whole drama , the reset is all family and parent of the year !
Take care Emma , I am sure we will speak soon again
Kind Regards,
Phill Ferreira
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http://www.pottytraining.co.uk/starting-out/when-to-start/?id=0027
Re potty training – look at the above advice. Forcing the issue is counter productive – 2 1/2 and not fully potty trained is perfectly acceptable . Pushing them before they are ready leads to more problems .
Please try and relax with your children’s development – if you are anxious over this issue – what will you be like on bigger issues as they grow ? Please do not make them feel they are failing you as I can see the potential for this in your approach .
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Hi Emma ,
Thank you for your post and very kind parenting advice , but you seem to forget , in my country Social services will remove your children for this by the age my boys are now as in my culture this is heavily frowned upon , the care giver and courts have and still don’t give any consideration that patents from different cultures have different values and points of reference , I am not saying one is right and one is wrong , but I am allowed an opinion just as you are , and I will voice mine as our boys future is at stake having to be kept hostage by a questionable care giver to put it nicely…..
Take Care , speak soon
Phill
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And some cultures carry out female genital mutilation – are you saying that is right too , merely on the basis of ‘culture ‘ ?
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Hi Emma ,
Apologies for leaving you hanging this morning but I have to go out to work as I do not live of the state like our boys care giver..
Your comment does not make sense to me as I did not judge on what is right or wrong like you seem to want to do ..
So let me ask you this , one of our boys has a hydraspadios , he has had the 1st of a 3 part recommended operation to correct this , the doctor has recommended circumcision as it is the safest and least pain full way of fixing the problem , the care giver is saying that the doctor needs to put our son through extra pain and do a cosmetic procedure that might or might not work as she believes he will be emotionally effected if he does not look the same naked as his NoN identical twin brother ….
And you say I have issues , how sad is this that a care giver would inflict pain on a little man for their own selfish reasons , and you know what , the Court agreed to let her do it …..
Hope you had a good day !
Phill
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Hi Phil ,
In my comment , I was referring to your cultural belief that children should be potty trained by 2 and that this is frowned upon – a belief you uphold .
This is not the common culture in current uk society as we believe children should not be forced into this and given time – this does not make it ‘ bad parenting ‘.
I cannot comment on any surgical interventions – but would assure you that no surgeon in the uk would perform an operation on a child if they did not believe it was in their best interests .
Emma
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Hi Emma ,
Thank you again for your comment, you are correct I believe this is bad parenting as this is how I was brought up , I did not say it was right or wrong but am pretty sure I am allowed an opinion about our boys care and upbringing even if the care giver does not believe I have any rights
Not sure if you read Anja Eriud’s blog today , she made a lovely comment about my block , she was not so flattering about your opinions but then again I guess she same as me and you are allowed an individual opinion.
As I said this morning I am more than happy for you to engage with me on issues you feel strongly about , but don’t judge if you don’t have all the info ,
Re my boys operation I can send you the Cafcass recording of what the care giver told the case worker , Mr Davies the legal representative from the hospital will not even return my calls as they know what they have allowed the care giver to do is or was wrong , I say this because the hospital and care giver is refusing to confirm what they have done or are planning to do ……makes me smell a rat I am afraid to say …..
Have good evening , and thank you again for your comments on my blog it seems to have sparked a little bit of controversy but that’s not a bad thing !
Take Care
Phill
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Oh and I think you will find if you read my original post – that it is not Anja ‘s article I find inappropriate – it is your posting of a crass word that your boys will one day see .
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Hi Emma ,
As you made the comment on the post even after Anja clearly explained the acronym, I assumed you found the post offensive as I think Anja was crystal clear in her use of the word and the type set she used to display it , maybe you have not read past the 1st word then it seems.
I would be extremely concerned if our little men would know the meaning of that words before they are in their teenage years , but hey maybe that is once again English culture as a care giver to teach children words like that , and that is once again one of my believes from my culture !
But I guess reality if you have ever spoken to the care giver , can send you some choice bbm’s to display her potty mouth if you like.
Take Care
Phill
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