This is a blog for my twin boys Oliver and Oscar Ferreira and I hope one day they get to read the truth about how their mother ( Jayne E Ferreira AKA Jayne E McClure) kept them from knowing their Dad and denied them any form of a normal and healthy relationship with me , nor will the 3 of us every be able to create memories as little boys and their Daddy should….
My name is Barbara , Babs for short!
Hope u don’t mind me writing , but I reckon we have a lot in common .
I am a single mom to 2 brilliant kids whose were left to fend for ourselves without a father a couple of years ago . I have struggled to bring them up the best way I can on a very tight budget which I am ashamed to say does come from benefits and nothing more . I would love to work but on benefits I can’t afford childcare and on £7 an hour cleaning jobs don’t cover it. I’m stuck .Poxy CSA money isn’t enough to buy anything . I may have to resort to other things to survive ( plenty of offers on the estate where we live )
My kids father was a very violent man and used his large size ( he is black Nigerian and I am little white ) to scare me and often hit me (usually my belly and back so as nobody could see it ) . Yet he still gets to see my kids every other weekend , you must have done something real bad only bein allowed to see them 4 times a year , what did you do ?
Nice letters to your kids , no fear of my ex doing that he can’t write proper English !
Love Babs x
Thank you for taking the time to read my boys blog. I am really sorry to hear about your situation, breaks my heart if I am honest!
I wanted my wife to return to work to support us as a family as I paid over a 100 pound a day for nurcery fees , we had a full time nanny , ironing lady and cleaner but my wife felt she could give my boys a better life on 1200 pound benefits as a single parent , because I have taken up the fight to see our boys Cafcass says I am crazy , I and my wife told police I pushed her once in 2009 when we lived in Dubai and thus I am a domestic violence perpetrator with no proof , so she could get legal aid !
Also a psycologist interviewed me for 2 hours at a airport and decided I have narsicisim
In my case my ex is playing the system to line her pockets as she is getting free child care from the state but still sits at home…..
Ps , keep your chin up ! Things will get better for you…. Xx
Thanks for mentioning me in today’s blog !
Wow , are you royalty or something ? Cleaners, ironing ladys, nanny . Only in my wildest dreams !
I don’t get it though why your ex would threw you out and lose all that based on a fight in 2009?
If you were paying out for all that stuff and letting your kids have A brilliant live style why don’t you carry on paying ? £1200 a month on benefits sounds ace to me ( and more than I get for sure) but if nyrcery is £100 a day I guess it don’t go far ?
What is narsicisim anyway ?sounds nasty is it like narcolepsy ? My uncle had that and he fell asleep when he was driving and died . Maybe that’s why you can’t go our with your kids in case you crash the car or something ?
Hope you have a nice evening
Good morning Babs,
Hope you are well,
And thank you for your comment again,
I was the one that walked out of my wife’s parents home over the Easter weekend as I was not willing to endure the name calling , foul mouths and verbal abuse from them all , her mother told me I am jealous of the fact that my ex has a life and lots of free time to go out with her friends drinking etc. and that I must know my job is to work and provide for her to be able to do so!
She also refused to support my visa to remain in the UK as her Dad said he will pay , thus I left the UK and she lost her CSA cash,
The psycologist met me once and decided I am a narsisit , which means I have a high opinion of my self , like things in their right place and to control people , where in fact I was the one that was never allowed a say on anything re our boys or our home only my ex and her father?
You make me laugh with the royalty comment , I am South African and in my culture parents work to give their children a better life and as such use home support to be able to do so and this by the UK Courts makes me crazy…
I was told by my ex and her father that I am ungrateful when he comes into our home to rearrange things his way , they would never ask or take my opinion into account and would just do what they want while I worked away from home lots to try and support our life style but nothing would ever be good enough,
I forgot to mention yesterday , she is telling the Courts that I will abduct our boys because I am South African but yet her and her father took them out of the country and lied to the Court about it! She also told them my family is in the Mafia and she fears for their lives because of it….
I really hope your situation improves, not sure why my ex get so much in benefits sure it’s more fraud claims as she did forget to tell them she owns a house which ment she did not qualify but as her and her dad use to tell me , they are English and can do what they want in the UK ,and I know nothing ! Nice people !
Hope you will have a great day and that the weather is not to cold !
Sorry Babs , forgot to mention I pocked my mother in law on the arm with the index finger to tell her to stop swearing and shouting at me like a mad women , the day I walked out !
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Thank you for reblogging my post Phill, Hope you are well, would you like me to post a link to your blog on my find your family page?
Hey , thank you very much ,that would be very kind of you 🙂
No Problem Phill, our pleasure, one day they will see it and contact you I am sure, have you tried skype contact?
Mum wants no contact , she is trying to change their names now because of this blog , I spoke to the boys once in May last year on Skype , mum and her brother then tried to blackmail me for more cash then what I offered in support , she then went to the CSA in the UK as I was still in the UK then and they decided she would get 300 pound a month less then my direct offer , the next day she broke all contact ….
O and the judge said I am not allowed to speak to the boys on Skype because I got emotional when I had to say bye to them , same as what I was told I can not say I love then in court as that shows I am emotionally unstable as per Cafcass !
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